This is just my opinion and it is only my opinion so you dont have to agree with me but I wanna just throw this out there. In todays society there seems to be some confusion on what a parent is. You are not a mom or a dad because youve made a child. You are not a mom or a dad because you post statuses or photos of these children on facebook, instagram, twitter, kik, ooVoo, or snapchat. You are not a mom and a dad because you talk about a child to your friends. If you only have $20 for a week or two until your next pay check and your money didnt go to your childs diapers, formula, clothes, yearbook, school photos, etc.. youre probably not a mom or a dad. You ARE a mom or dad because youve sat up all night. Because youve spent time with your child. Because youve sacrificed for your child. You have gone to Drs appointments. Youve given your last dime for your child. When youve lost sleep just to make sure they are okay during the night. You are a mom and dad because you are a DOer and not a TAKER. You are a mom and dad because you dont feel the need to be validated on social media to compensate for your lack of actions in the real world. And just because 14 people Like your status -- that doesnt mean youre a real mom or dad-- it means more than likely.. THEY arent a mom or dad either. I have heard people question the logistics of my family and ask for definition. Who belongs to who? How is this person related to you? Does it matter, really? In my life alone-- Ive had aunts who mothered. Uncles who fathered. Ive had parents who have grandparented. I have had girls become sisters and guys become brothers. I have had strangers do more work than most blood relatives ever attempted. Ive seen a lot of biological parents take credit for being a mom and dad when in fact they never were. Ive been part of a family that has gone out of their way to provide for those who havent been provided for. This isnt about money. This is about time. This is about caring. This is about education. This is about sitting up at night and taking care of sick children, going to Drs appointments, doing homework, spending time riding bikes, scooters, playing with cabbage patch dolls on the floor and the list goes on. I hate this facebook crap that is allowing even the WORST mom and dad to play a different role. Chances are-- if youve had a warrant for your arrest because you havent paid child support? Youre probably one of many Im talking about. It has allowed those who dont put into the parenting role but try and take out of it. And thats just not how life works. If you have child support taken out of your check and youve not spoken to your child in months or years.. youre not a mom or dad. Ok. I need more coffee and to start my day. Fyi this is not about my exhusband (unless he feels it needs to be LOL) Its a general statement.
Posted on: Thu, 24 Oct 2013 11:33:09 +0000
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