This is rather a wordy status update but I really urge you to read it completely. Idhula gilmavum illa, comedyum illa sarcasmum illa. But I want you to read it. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I believe that being a parent is the most selfish act that anyone can do. Why? Because, you bring another life into this world, not because it asked you to, but rather to fulfil your own reproductive ego and show others your reproductive prowess. And thats where the problem starts. 1. You raise the child the way you want. 2. You make him/her to make life decisions based on your preference. Tell your parents that you want to learn something that interests you rather than something that they want, anga prechana varum.. Tell you parents that you like a girl or boy and want to marry her, rather than the one whom they have asked you to, anga prechana varum.. So, you bring a soul which was just free to roam this universe, put it inside a vessel which you made, call it your son or your daughter, make him/her do the things that you couldnt have done in your own life. I totally dont see the point. I see a lot of my friends tell me that their parents want them to become a doctor or an engineer or a businessman or whatever, because they couldnt in their own life. Avungaluku onney onnu dhaan kekkanum.. Dai monnaingala.. Unga vaalkayavey unganala theermanika mudiyalana apram endha dashukuda unga payyan vaalkaya neenga theermanikreenga? And Ive also heard a lot of stories wherein the parents blackmail emotionally that they will commit suicide when their child tell them that they are in love and plan to marry the same person. To those children, I tell you this. Please.. Ask them do go forward and end their life gladly. Because, 1. They are just blackmailing you and most wouldnt go through with the plan. 2. Even if they do, know this, it was their decision to end their life and you werent the cause. If and when they think about ending their life when faced with a life altering shock and grief now, they will most likely take the same decision when faced with a problem that you didnt cause. Who would you blame then? Them, choosing to hurt themselves is their choice, you didnt force them to take that decision and neither did you want them to. I just wanted to share what I felt were the root causes for so many problems nowadays and I sharing this not for the parents, but for many of you, my friends. Because, sooner or later, almost all of you will have a kid or two of your own. And when that happens, I dont want to look at your kid and see yourself in their eyes, but rather look into their eyes and see another soul that came to inhabit this world because of you and acknowledge the fact that that soul is not yours to dictate. You just own the patent to the vessel. Let it do what it wants to do. Your only duty is to impart all the wisdom and knowledge that you have gained and then leave it to choose its own destiny, because when youre confident enough in the lessons that you had taught, you will be confident enough of your kids well being and happiness no matter what he makes of himself in his life. Teach how to make decisions and dont preach the decisions that you want. And me.. Im just lucky to have parents who kind of get this point or at least understand this when I tell them.
Posted on: Tue, 15 Jul 2014 10:51:51 +0000
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