This is sooo right. Some people in my widows/widowers support group think they arent healed enough because they arent back to NORMAL (whatever that means) in 2-3 yrs. My God! It took me 18 mo. just to stop crying, daily! And things will NEVER go back to the way they were! We simply MUST find a NEW normal. Well NEVER be completely over it (it will always be part of us), but we can grow & move passed the worst of it...if we choose to! Or we can wallow in the worst of the grief until it KILLS us! Now its been 8 1/2 yrs since my husband passed away, unexpectedly, and Im mostly great, frequently excellent and rarely miserably sad & in tears! My 6th Christmas was more difficult than 3rd-5th..no idea why, although my level of loneliness seems to have a direct correlation on my level of misery! I find if I keep myself busy, helping others, I seem NOT to have time to wallow in whats left of my grief! I CHOOSE to live on...in the JOY God has given me, for the JOY of the Lord IS my STRENGTH!
Posted on: Tue, 02 Sep 2014 07:03:40 +0000
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