This is why Im trying to get my son early intervention now. This is why he goes to a special school. This is how a lot of the kids at his school act. My son is not this bad but he still has these tendencies. It never escalates this far because Im always there to stop him and calm him and redirect him. This is why my needs constant supervision. My son tried to pull something off the shelf when we went to the grocery store on Saturday and as soon as he grabbed for it I stopped it. I had to literally grab it and push it back on the shelf and then deal with him. My daughters father was there and he decided to try to restrain him and that worked for the time being but when he got up his attitude was worse than before because now he wasnt just upset but he was mad too. Sometimes my son reacts the same way to people while hes in his rage. The boy in this video reacts by pulling his arms back like hes going to hit or throw something at the people. In the second part of the video where he is restrained outside the boy doesnt answer the mans questions and his only response is Youre stupid! Thats the same exact thing my son says when he is upset. Its an automated response. They dont know how to regulate their emotions or communicate what they feel or think into words. They use the same basic responses each time. It doesnt mean they think youre stupid and dont know anything. All it means is that they are mad or upset with you at the time for whatever reason and they dont know another way to communicate the true feeling they are feeling. It has taken me time to figure a lot out with my son and help from literally around 20 different experts and professions and we still dont know how to handle him in every situation. Even the professionals/teachers at his school dont know what to do sometimes and they are educated and trained and have experience with children with aggressive tendencies. Battling aggression with aggression only fuels my sons aggression. Soft spoken but direct communication(eye to eye contact) and sympathy( saying I know youre upset but use your words instead etc.) The latter has been the most effective for my son but every child is different. I feel sad that this boy is alone in this store. My first priority would be my son and not whatever excuse his family has for why they were not there. Sometimes its hard to tell what will set children like this off and I dont know what did for this little boy. I feel sad that my son has so much rage and pain inside that makes him lash out. As long as I am breathing I will be there for him but I know that I will not always be around and it breaks my heart. It makes me sad just sending my son to school when they call me and tell me the things he has done or the bus driver tells me stories because I cant be there with him. Whether this kid has disabilities or not it breaks my heart that hes going through whatever hes feeling all alone with nobody to console him or tell him that whatever is wrong is going to be okay. This kid is just throwing a big temper tantrum. I completely agree the person that said in the background Hes screaming out for help.
Posted on: Tue, 30 Dec 2014 19:20:42 +0000