Those who live in the Lord never see each other for the last time. Think about 1 Corinthians 2:9: But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him. This Is For All Those Who Are Missing A Loved One This Christmas... Sometimes it seems that December 25 is an enchanted day when the world stands still. Its packed with countless expectations and dreams—all tied in red and green bows and tucked under Christmas trees … But for many, the holidays can be a season of deep loneliness and sorrow. Missing packages and empty chairs make no secret that life has changed. Most of us realize that it is normal for those in mourning to feel great sadness and grief during the holidays. And we know that God can work through us to give the brokenhearted encouragement and companionship. But if you are like me, you have asked yourself, How can I give hope to the grieving during the holidays? One of the most precious gifts is the simple act of listening. Well meaning people at times feel that they must do something or have the answers. Instead of answers, the grieving are comforted by people with understanding hearts whose sheer presence says, I care. Let them cry if they want to cry. Let them laugh. … Being there and letting people know that you care is the most important thing. The Bible says Romans 12:15b: Mourn with those who mourn. What would Jesus do in our situation? We know that He wept at the tomb of Lazarus. Perhaps you cant speak the words of resurrection life with the authority Jesus did when He raised Lazarus from the grave, but surely you can weep with the same passion Jesus had when He cried at the death of a friend. It is encouraging for friends and family to talk about Christmases they once shared with the deceased and to recall good memories. Those who are grieving want to talk about the ones theyve lost. They may even want to rehash some unpleasant details of an illness with a close friend or a family member. Regardless, give them space to talk and let that be part of the holiday gathering. Realize that the sounds, smells, and sights of the holidays can trigger some strong emotions. The brokenhearted will likely recall their absent loved one as friends and family gather. Let them know that its okay to feel pain … that this is an important part of the healing process. We are reminded in Galatians 6:2, Bear one anothers burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ. As you do this, your loved one will feel affirmed and loved. It is very healing and comforting when others remember or honor your loved ones memory. The simplest gesture is greatly appreciated—a hug, phone call, e-mail or card. If you have experienced a loss similar to your grieving friend or relative, ask God to give you the ability to comfort with the comfort you were given. The comfort God has given you is not only His loving ministry to you, it is His call to you to minister to others. You have experienced the pain of loss, but you have also begun to experience the comfort that only the Lord can give. Encourage your grieving friend to consider doing something out of the ordinary during the Christmas season. Holidays are very difficult after the loss of a loved one, especially a child. … Following through with special traditions from the past may be much too painful for a grieving family. Grieving families should feel the freedom to celebrate the holidays in any manner that enables them, by the grace of God, to make it through the season. The grieving process varies from person to person. I read where the period between six and 18 months (after the death) is generally the most difficult time. During this time period, loved ones typically are no longer actively reaching out to the hurting person, but its also a stage when the numbness begins to disappear and reality sinks in: Life has forever changed. Its important to include widowed friends in holiday activities, even if they cancel at the last minute. If a woman, a couple should offer to go by and pick her up. Dont expect her to come by herself. She says that its also nice to bring friends who have lost a spouse to church and to sit by them. Its hard to sit in a spot where you always sat with your spouse. I can remember years ago when I would be hesitant to speak to someone [who had lost a loved one] because I did not know what to say. Its not what you say, but its just the fact that you let them know that you care. I can remember when I would be hesitant to speak to someone [who had lost a loved one] because I did not know what to say. Its not what you say, but its just the fact that you let them know that you care. When Christmas lights glow in windows and shining stars are placed on the tops of Christmas trees, pray that your brokenhearted friend will accept, by faith, the hope of Jesus Christ. In the darkness, you can see the brightest light of Gods truth. … In death, you can celebrate the end of the story in the way you never had before. … May you look through the darkness and see Christs light. In your deep sadness, receive the comfort that only He can give. As you read the Christmas story in Luke, pray that God will help your loved one accept the sovereignty of God. have come to understand, It is because of the birth, death, and resurrection of Jesus that we have been able to stand. Our lives are truly about eternity. … Christmas brings home the reality and promise of a sweet reunion in heaven with Jesus and our loved ones. Remember that the brokenhearted will experience both joy and sadness during the holidays. When someone is missing in the fun and festivities it leaves a big gap. … Family traditions like hanging ornaments, opening gifts, or viewing neighborhood lights are just not the same. Yet, despite feelings of incredible loss, God can work through His people to give His great comfort. As we share the Christmas story, the grieving will be reminded of our eternal hope. The true meaning of Christmas is not packages with red and green bows, tucked under Christmas trees. Instead, its never-ending hope because of our Savior—hope for today … and for an eternity of tomorrows. In the midst of the darkness … the star of Bethlehem shines bright.
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