Thoughts On Feeling Lonely “A lonely day is God’s way of saying that he wants to spend some quality time with you.” – Chriss Jami One of the trickiest feelings to deal with is loneliness – and each of us in recovery has experienced periods, even brief ones, when we can’t seem to get past this troubling emotion. Maybe there is another way to regard feeling lonely, a slightly different perspective offered by Chriss Jami in the above quote. How about using our time alone to reflect and contemplate the riches that God has bestowed upon us? We are alive, after all, and in recovery. That is a blessing and a gift. No, someone else didn’t hand it to us, but we know full well that we didn’t get here by virtue of our own accord, either. Granted, we did make the choice to get clean and sober, but where did the courage to make that decision come from if not influenced greatly by our Higher Power? Even if we don’t particularly believe in the concept of a God, or we’re unclear about our beliefs in this area, we still know that there is something more powerful than us at work in many instances. On the other hand, if we do believe in God, how much easier it is to use our time alone – instead of wallowing in a feeling of loneliness – to see what our Higher Power has to impart to us? We might find, for example, that there are some things that we’ve always wanted to spend time doing but have never allowed ourselves to get involved in. Our inner thoughts might show us that there’s something valuable that we might discover, not only in an activity or pastime, but also about ourselves and our ability to grow. In recovery, as all the experts in the field tell us, as well as our fellow group members and 12-step sponsor in the rooms of recovery, every day is another opportunity to learn something new, to discover some new and different (for us) talent or ability, to pursue knowledge and information, to hone our skills, to become better communicators, and to learn day by day how to be more confident, self-assured and eager to embrace our new life in sobriety. Some days are quieter than others. This is a good thing. We don’t need the clamor and clatter of non-stop action and discussion all the time. In fact, a little quiet time is an excellent time for the reflection that we should engage in now and then. Such introspection also helps us put our life in perspective, to recognize that goals we want to achieve are doable, even though they may take time. In 10 years, we can look back on this time and appreciate everything we have been able to achieve, the goals we succeed at, the friendships we’ve made, and the full and satisfying life that we have led. For now, just listen to what God has to say to us. If we aren’t sure what He is saying, just be still and one with our thoughts. The message will get through.
Posted on: Fri, 13 Sep 2013 18:06:33 +0000
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