Throughout my life I spent time and energy resenting people who hurt me. I was so focused on how they ‘should have’ known better that I lost sight of the fact they were emotionally oblivious to the impact of their actions. At the time they could not have done better because while on an intellectual level they knew their behavior was wrong, they did not have the emotional self-control to stop themselves. So while I fumed away at how I thought they should have been, they had long ago forgotten, moved on. Resentment does not hurt those people you hold it against. It hurts you. Holding onto resentment is choosing to allow the people who hurt you to continue doing so by keeping the pain of what they did alive. The truth - you cannot change them or the past. You cannot get them to make what they did wrong, right. But, you can let go, move on, and stop dragging around the pain of resentment for what was done.
Posted on: Tue, 12 Nov 2013 20:06:30 +0000
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