Tips on how to deal with aggressive people : We all get frustrated by the pressures of life but some people, it seems, are angry all the time. So how can we deal with other people’s anger without getting into conflict ourselves? In this article you can find tips on how to reduce the likelihood of becoming the subject of aggression and information about violent behaviour in general. Start your anger management journey today. The 3 types of behaviour : In any interaction with another, there are three types of behaviour used – submissive, aggressive or assertive – some characteristics of which are listed below. [1] Submissive : Acting in an apologetic or frightened manner Not standing up for your rights Not expressing your views Avoiding eye contact Using cringing body language Using ‘umm’ and ‘er’ too much in conversation [2] Aggressive : Putting others down Using sarcasm Interrupting rudely Being threatening or abusing Using ‘you should’ and ‘you ought’ in conversation [3] Assertive : Looking assured, caring and understanding Using good listening skills Keeping direct, but not constant, eye contact Using a firm and relaxed voice Using empathetic phrases and not being judgmental Using ‘I’ statements Assertive communication : Be clear, about what you want, what you want to say, your purpose Be precise, use short clear sentences Be specific, address the aggression before other issues Be positive, in word and action, if you don’t know – find out Be confident, in your skills, in your ability to communicate Clearly, while it is being suggested that you behave and communicate in an assertive way, if this is not your usual habit, you may not find it easy to do, especially in a frightening situation. If this is the case, it is suggested that you practice behaving assertively in your daily life, with people that you know well, and in situations that are not too difficult or threatening. Once you have become proficient at behaving this way, it will be easier when you are faced with aggression. Advantages of being assertive : Improves relationships at work Gives you greater self-confidence and confidence in others Helps you increase your own self-control Leads to win/win situations It is important to minimise feelings of frustration being experienced by someone you are interacting with at your work. Remember that frustration is likely to be caused by them not getting something they want, and although they may still not be able to have whatever it is, using the tactics below will help. Minimising frustration : Explain clearly and check that they understand Don’t make false promises, they will appreciate honesty Know your job and your limits Listen well Don’t patronise Try to prevent an audience Give them information. If you can’t, explain why and when you will be able to. There are also many ways in which you can actively indicate to someone else that you are not aggressive or intending to be, and this is likely to have the effect of reducing their own aggression and feelings of aggression. Non-aggressive behaviour : Breathing deeply and slowly Maintaining a relaxed posture and relaxed muscles Using open hand language Perhaps sitting down, unless violence is imminent If standing, stand at an angle of 45 degrees, this is safer and less confrontational Listen actively Keep your voice low and calm Empathise Keep appropriate eye contact Ask if they mind you making notes Share it If You found it Helpful :) Good Night Friends M€nz @t M!ss!0n ~ from : भारतवर्ष # €spirit-D€-Corps ~ €spirit-D€-N@tion
Posted on: Wed, 27 Nov 2013 16:44:59 +0000
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