Today Value Addition words ;-) How to Cope Through Heartbreak. 1. Go Deep and Look Closer. -First, losses and heartbreak can be cumulative. Every unresolved grief you experience throughout your life may be accumulating over time. While we may believe we can leapfrog over our losses, they can still take a toll on us. Take a good, hard look at your life and think about all of the losses that deeply hurt you. You can’t begin to heal until you know what’s broken. 2. Learn From Your Losses. -We often continue to repeat destructive patterns so that we set ourselves up for loss after loss, dysfunctional relationship after dysfunctional relationship. These are called self-destructive patterns, and we all have them. Unfortunately, if we don’t learn from these destructive patterns, we are doomed to repeat them. 3. Grieve Each and Every Loss. -Yes, this step takes time and energy. It takes tending to ourselves and understanding the meaning of every loss. It means caring for ourselves and understanding how a loss has impacted us. It means creating space and time to sit with our feelings of pain. We must notice the patterns of our loves and losses so that we won’t repeat them. 4. Practice New Ways of Relating. -This will take courage, humility and risk. You will need to heal from earlier losses, identify self-destructive patterns, and make healthier choices. This will likely mean that you will be without a significant relationship as you learn about yourself. This will involve counseling and listening to others who have made similar mistakes. This can be terribly frightening, but tremendously healing. -You must believe that you are worthy of a having healthy, loving relationship. You must believe that you are capable of attracting a loving, caring person and can sustain a healthy relationship. Can you believe you are worth it? Can you take the chance to love again? I think you can. God bless you pal. Gday....
Posted on: Thu, 04 Jul 2013 11:14:33 +0000
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