Todays what did you get from our session today? share. Do you have someone in your life - someone close to you such as a friend or family member, where you feel like its always a fight? Or maybe its a coworker? Client: I won’t fight my mom anymore. I won’t fight it, I will let myself stay still. You’re right, in a way, sometimes I’m fueling it the way I answer back, the way I react and say things. It’s a trigger. I’ll try to do it myself, I will do it from a different approach. It gets to the point where I’m avoiding it in a way. I’m expecting it to get better but it gets worse. Thank you this was helpful. That’s a relief, talking about it and looking at if from a different perspective. Even though I coach people on work and business, everyone once in a while a client will say I want to talk to you about my mom OR my wife, OR my kid, OR someone that they cant seem to get along with. If you want a different result with this person, then YOU need to act, communicate and listen differently. Even if something triggers you, dont fight back, it will just fuel that old dynamic. Stop saying I dont care anymore because you do. Instead, be still and listen for what they are really trying to tell you even when they say things that anger or hurt you. Sometimes all they want is attention, friendship or quality time with you. Sometimes they are looking for approval or validation. And sometimes there might be some truth to what they are saying even though you dont like it. If you want an improved relationship with this person, then start talking to them from the heart and not the head. Describe to them what kind of relationship you want with them and ask them what they envision as an ideal relationship with you. Start from there and see where the conversation takes you.
Posted on: Fri, 08 Aug 2014 20:33:36 +0000