Uncle Mike, I caught my fiancé cheating on me red handed. At first I was heartbroken, but he came to apologise and I have forgiven him. Our Traditional is coming up this April. But each time I call his number and he doesnt pick, I feel great bitterness and suspicion. The only thing that comes to my mind is to cheat on him too. He has done a lot for me and my family, but I really want to do it and leave him to suspect or find out. Sir, how do I deal with this? Thanks in advance! Advice: Good evening my dear, I am not exactly sure what your question was- as per what you want to deal with? Do you want to deal with your heartbreak, your bitterness or vengeance? Well, before the comments will start coming, you would notice that I did cut the bulk of your long message and posted only a summary of it. So I am going to offer you advice accordingly and our friends will do the rest. I am however happy that you have not allowed your anger over your fiancés use of his Solomonic Privilege of boys will always be boys, to end your proposed marriage this Coming April. There is still a future for two of you after apologies have been offered and accepted. Concerning your bitterness, you will just have to learn to let go of things you cant change. Even if you end the relationship today, you will still be pained at the betrayal. And that brings us to the final issue- revenge! Apart from using him for ritual and sharing the money with his mother, noting else is worth it. However, if you really intend to take some kind of like for like revenge, first, you have to MAKE SURE that your victim (the guy you want to use for that purpose) is only for a temporary assignment. Secondly, you have to ENSURE that this guy can perform the same magic at the level your Fiancé does or even better- even better. If you make a mistake with a two minutes and everyone is happy kind of man or with someone you have to tell to put it in when he was already inside and almost done, then the revenge doesnt make any sense. In fact, an incomplete revenge has the capacity to make you to be more carnally desirous and appreciative of your fiancé; so you have to be careful. Bottom line is this, if full apology was accepted and forgiveness granted, you must let go! It would have been better if you denied him forgiveness, than forgive him and still seek revenge; any revenge now is a new offence and in the moral pinnacle of life, one forgiveness does not deserve another. That is to say, if your fiancé catches you, he would have NO moral obligation to forgive you because you once forgave him- wrong is wrong. But, if you still want to take your revenge and feel it would solve your bitterness towards him, then prepare for it and try it. Get the right victim, be calm and quiet about it! Enjoy it temporarily!!! May the good Lord Guide your heart and your engine! God bless! (MIU, Jan. 2015).
Posted on: Mon, 19 Jan 2015 10:14:57 +0000
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