VIA OTHERS Remember: attention is a psychological need. It has to be understood. Why do people need so much attention? Why in the first place does everybody want people to pay attention to them? Why does everybody want to be special? Something is missing inside. You dont know who you are. You know yourself only by others recognition. You dont have any direct approach into your being, you go VIA OTHERS. If somebody says you are good, you feel you are good. If somebody says you are not good, you feel very very depressed—so you are not good. If somebody says you are beautiful, you are happy. If somebody says you are ugly, you are unhappy. You dont know who you are. You simply live on opinions of others, you go on collecting opinions. You dont have any recognition—direct, immediate—of your being. Thats why you gather a borrowed being. Hence the need for attention. And when people are attentive to you, you feel as if you are being loved, because in love we pay attention to each other... Love is attentive — and everybody has missed love. Very rare people have attained to love, because love is God. Millions live without love because millions live without God. Love has been missed. How to substitute that gap? The easier substitute is to get peoples attention. That will befool you, deceive you, that they love you... osho
Posted on: Fri, 09 Jan 2015 22:26:31 +0000