WHAT TYPE OF PERSONALITY DO YOU BELIEVE YOU HAVE? ******************************************* Do you feel there is a part of you that isnt working very well in certain situations? A part of you that you wish would stop coming out at certain times, but it continues to do so making you feel out of control, and perhaps even causing problems for you with others? Our personalities are like facets of a diamond, there are many different sides to us. These sides begin to form based on our life experiences and our conditioning, which then dictates our perceptions and behaviour (in some cases some also believe our genetic make up is also a factor). Here are some examples of different sides or parts of us ; a happy side, a serious side, an angry side, a humorous side, an intellectual side , a motivated or unmotivated side, an insecure side, a nurturing side, a confident side, a non confident side, and so on... ideally, in order for us to feel balance in our life , we want to be able to access the correct side of us that is appropriate for that situation. For example- When trying to resolve a disagreement with someone, it would be more beneficial for both parties to access the side of them that can calmly communicate instead of their angry side, (not that anger is not beneficial in some situations, just not this one.) All of these sides or parts make up our whole personality. We often label ourselves and/or others as being that whole part , for example- She is just an angry person, or I am NOT a confident person. Lets take the latter example... I am not a confident person. This statement is untrue, let me explain... Perhaps due to past experiences a person doesnt feel confident in a certain situation , lets say a social setting. She/he feels self conscious, causing them feelings of anxiety. After experiencing these negative feelings several times, she/he begins to tell herself/himself I am not a confident person, and then lives by it. The question for them is? How many situations are you confident in? Perhaps your very confident in your job role, or being a parent, or you feel confident in many other areas of your life, therefore labelling yourself as a Non confident person because you feel under confident in a social setting would be inaccurate. This also goes for many other false labels we place on ourselves, continue to believe and then unfortunately live by. Continuing this negative way of thinking can leave us feeling powerless and perhaps believing there is no room for change. So your next question may be So how can I change this? THE FIRST STEP TO CHANGE IS AWARENESS- once we stop labelling ourselves with these negative identities we can begin to shift our thinking, which can shift our emotions , our behaviours and then our actions. YOUR IDENTITY IS NOT THE WAY YOU REACT OR RESPOND IN ANY GIVEN SITUATION, YOU ARE MORE THAN THAT SO STOP LABELLING YOURSELF!! What is parts therapy and how can hypnotherapy help me with this challenge? Under hypnosis, the hypnotherapist is able to help the client access an empowered part of themselves, that operates well in a particular situation, and have that part take over when it is needed. For example, the part of them that is confident and calm in their job role can be the part that they now access and use in a social setting. This will give them the confidence that they need to feel in control where they were once felt out of control. What the mind creates the mind can heal. Have a great day :)
Posted on: Tue, 29 Oct 2013 03:27:58 +0000
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