We all lead an approximate life. We can be approximately good. Which can also mean we are approximately bad. Depending on which of the sides finally took effect in the real world. It is not easy sometimes to locate where we are on that spectrum of goodness or other measurements. Perceptions, and not reality, are often used before the end effect in reality sinks in. Perceptions are used as conclusions, sadly. We could be approximately good in our work, but approximately bad in our expression of it. Hence the world outside may perceive us as not doing good work. In some situations, this can stand uncorrected for years together -- especially when we are in the midst of damaged people who convey such wrong perceptions to others Approximations abound. Not only in goodness. But in erudition. In knowledge. In wisdom. In expression of love. In our expression of sincerity. Everywhere. We even perceive each and every instance quite approximately. Is this instance right for us? Or wrong? Are we being effective now? How much? We can only deal with such questions approximately. So how does one lead a well-lived life? When a good man dies, the epitaph really should say here lies an approximately good man Whatever he may have done, the good side happened to rule over whatever that was bad about him. Or was at least percieved to be so. Not many can actually reach this point where his goodness actually gets carved into a tombstone That requires a lot of hard work. Isnt the human condition strange? When things are going around reasonably (approximately) okay, we do not generally walk around telling ourselves that things are quite fine and actually relish in it and be expresive and vocal about it. We dont relish in those moments which did support us in some way or the other.W e just take those good moments for granted and move on. However, when things go even a bit wrong -- it all dramatically comes and stares angrily at us right into our face. We get caught in the maelstrom of emotions. We often are overwhelmed by it. It seems, in a marriage, if one spouse does something wrong to the other, it would take at least five positive instances of equal emotional intensity for the hurt partner to feel assuaged. In the subject of attachment theory, they talk about an attachment injury where one partner gets hurt very badly when he/she feels the other partner has got detached from the relationship. Sometimes these feelings are not based on facts. They are just wrong perceptions. But for all of us, perceptions are the reality. So here is a lady who stonewalled a husband and ill-treated him for years, for no real fault of his. When the husband divorced her, after making many attempts to repair the situation, she turns around saying how come he divorced me? he should have stayed, no? If he was truly in love with me, he should have been here, no? So that is an example of an attachment injury based on wrong facts. The truth is that the husbands very real attachment injury was forgotten in the ladys vocal expressions of self-pity In short, approximations can easily be used wrongly The negatives are efficient. The positives gets realised by the world quite inefficiently. There is no easy way out. If the goodness inside you -- whatever the spectrum you are examining -- if that goodness has to come out and be perceived, you often need to do five times the work -- and possibly five hundred times the expression of having done the work. I guess, that is why a lot of marketing results in very deep rhetorics. Bob Dylan being the poet that he is, expressd it quite evocatively on behalf of that cuckolded husband, in his song; Positively 4th street: https://youtube/watch?v=M4cbfqUY2A8 But as per some authors, Bob Dylans title of that song refers not to a love betrayal. But it is his bitterness about his critics of his songwriting and deviation from folk-songs. Of course, when one is bitter, it is still the negative side that is getting emphasized. There is no point in getting bitter at all. My position is not similar to the one taken in Bob Dylans song. I like to overemphasize the goodness that is there and shot it out loud to the world. I am making my own version of Cat Stevens song: Cant keept it in I love the energy and the philosophy in that song. If you really are good deep down, just come out and say that https://youtube/watch?v=Gb_03LP55Lc There is no point in shouting out what bad the world did to you. That comes out quite efficiently anyway.
Posted on: Sat, 11 Oct 2014 07:03:30 +0000
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