We all want better intimate relationships so here is the Secret Sauce. Ive summed up the important points for you! Kindness glues couples together. Research shows that kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Think of kindness as a muscle. In some people, that muscle is naturally stronger than in others, but it can grow stronger in everyone with exercise. The research is clear: If you want to have a stable, healthy relationship, exercise kindness early and often. One way to practice kindness is by being generous about your partner’s intentions. The ability to interpret your partner’s actions and intentions charitably can soften the sharp edge of conflict. Another way is being there for each other when things go right; research reveals this to actually be more important for relationship quality. By observing certain types of interactions, Gottman can predict with up to 94 percent certainty whether couples—straight or gay, rich or poor, childless or not—will be broken up, together and unhappy, or together and happy several years later. Much of it comes down to the spirit couples bring to the relationship. Do they bring kindness and generosity; or contempt, criticism, and hostility? theatlantic/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/
Posted on: Tue, 17 Jun 2014 19:42:12 +0000
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