We almost divorced immediately after our marriage! A liking of almost half a decade that finally culminated into marriage--- was our association, as I can describe it. My wife had just finished her MD Gynae. from Rohtak when we got married. MD Gynae.--- the very clan I detested, had become my mate, due to MUTUAL reasons of heart. I detested them and still detest them for many reasons more than one! A finicky guy that I am, I had to launch her in proper form. No errors, excelling and number one! For which, I had to see her operating. Therefore, I accompanied her in her first few surgical excursions on the internal lady organs. These Gynaecologists have horrible tissue handling skills. No flair of knotting, suture choice (Catgut--- Oh My God, in this era!), antibiotics choice and whatever else you might think of. Each procedure would be followed by a fight and it was almost going from bad to worse. We would fight and then have our meals outside to the extent that a couple of eating joints in Jalandhar no longer asked us for our order--- they knew the menu for us by heart. My gross pain was that her training was terribly devoid of finer skills, namely, How to hand control the suture for critical vascular pedicle (of Uterus and Ovaries) precision knots, how to use the cautery, how to handle instruments etc. They almost seemed non existent. Having said that, she was definitely a notch above other even senior Gynaecs., who cant operate without a surgeon assisting them or most who call Surgeons through their back doors to operate upon their names! She would and could manage almost all procedures independently but not the way that would leave an onlooker breathless! That was my demand of her! The flair of a an accomplished musician lacked in her and that I could not do without. The love of years was losing to professional friction and I was not prepared to give any ground on that. Then a watershed incident happened (personal one) that changed the entire game. Things started falling back into place. Soon, another one happened---- that I can reveal---- A very hilarious incident. One of my Junior colleague, a good friend too, who had assisted me a lot in my surgeries got married and with Gods grace, his wife was in family way. He chose my wife as the Gynaec. for themselves and towards the due date, he came up with a flabbergasting request to me, much to the awe of my wife----- Sir, if my wife undergoes a Caesarean, I would want you to tackle the closure of the abdominal wall yourself. Leave other parts to maam (my wife) as I know that you dont involve yourself into Caesareans. A gastrosurgeons way of handling the abdominal wall is much different from the others. The suture tension (non strangulating apposition only, neither too tight, nor too lose), the choice of the suture, the suturing technique etc. all are meticulously addressed. All this my junior colleague had observed. It was also the basis of his demand for his wife! I can brag that all the cases that I have operated in my centre----- 0% wound failure rate (incisional hernia). Only one incidence and that too in an invited surgery in an alien centre, where confounding variables surely exist (improper meticulous wound care and binder for 2-3 months) to grant me benefit of doubt. My wife got a shock of her life. She was very upset at my colleagues demand. However she understood that her ghar ki murgi was not daal baraabar! With the grace of God, soon she stood up to standards of a seasoned accomplished operator. She conducts herself with flair that can put most other gynaecologists to shame. Its a pride watching her operate. I am now banned from gracing presence into the OT when her case is on, except when some contingency demands--- that happens at a frequency of not more than one or twice a year. Gynaecs. are shit scared of the urinary bladder, ureters and intestine, while she can handle them on her own. It almost took 3-4 months for our marital life to get back on track. It had almost fallen apart. During her (our) pregnancy, I had to assist a couple of other gynaecs. who were substituting for her, just that they should not have much trouble---- Oh My God---- same frustrations watching them! I have no idea why they are so crude and unflaired. Ultimately I stopped going to the gynae OTs and let them do their jobs as they liked. Such hurry they are always in, compromising on asepsis, tissue handling, suturing skills, etc. etc.
Posted on: Sun, 21 Dec 2014 15:46:42 +0000
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