We each determine the speed at which we heal. And there are healthy ways to do grief. And there are unhealthy ways to do grief. None of these ways are good. None are bad. But they sure are different. Most choose unconsciously or subconsciously. You can choose consciously. Or not. As I say in my book its not a choice you make once. You make it over and over and over. Me, too. Im still choosing. Many times a day. Its okay to go back-and-forth. Were human. Its important to remember that grief is not the enemy. Grief is one of our greatest teachers. Grief does not end. The goal is not to be grief-free. The goal one of them is to love the ride more than ever. We are each mind body spirit. When someone we love dearly dies. We shatter. Our job one of them it to put the puzzle back together. To begin decide if you want to work on your body your spirit or your mind. And do not kid yourself it will be hard hard hard work. Especially at first. Because we are whole human beings if you work on one aspect the other two are affected, too. As the body grows and heals so does the mind and spirit. Do you get that? When Rory died on the days I wanted to live rather than die I wanted to heal as fast as I could. Very early on every time I drank a glass of water I said, I am healing. I am healing. I am healing. I literally pictured the liquid going through my system healing everything it encountered. I started walking outside every day. It was February so I bought and wore tons of cold-ready gear cause I hate the cold. With every step I took Id say to myself I am healing I am healing I am healing. I had a standing appointment every Thursday at 10:00am for at least a year with a very powerful massage/reikki master. Wow. As the weeks became months and I felt a tad stronger physically (because Rorys death physically assaulted my mind, body and spirit.) I started practicing yoga. And then I moved up to a more advanced strenuous form of yoga which I loved. And about 4 years ago I started working out with a trainer. Something I had never ever done before. Why? Because I wanted to heal. All of it. I still do. Am I healed 100%? No. I dont believe I ever will be. Not in this life. Its about the journey not the destination. But I am stronger than I have ever been. On all levels. Mind. Body. Spirit. Now you know. How quickly would you like to heal? if you want to heal at all? As someone just shared, Healing is not for sissies. There is a new way to do grief. We are not the victims. We are the co-creators of the rest of our life. Join us at facebook/tomzuba1
Posted on: Mon, 26 Jan 2015 13:25:03 +0000
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