We got this very, very interesting message in our inbox. The writer has requested anonymity. Being a guy, I couldnt have imagined this whole scene. Writer - thanks (y) Sacked from job, I have been left to explore TV soaps at home. A new channel has come from across the border- Zindagi Live.Programmes like Kitni Girhan baki hain, Agle Janam Mohe bitiya naa keejo are such a welcome break from nonsensical drama Shobha kapoor has been serving us for more than a decade. I must admit I love their light classy make up and those Pakistani suits are such a hit these days. The program more than an entertainment has given me a sneak into the life of ladies across border. Not all are under burkas and they do have a say however complex but these women show outstanding courage, individuality and audacity. Once a while switching channels, I came across scene where mother-in-law congratulates his son. Says your wife is expecting. He reacts wow – X ? Mother in law replies no Y.I don’t remember names, but these X and Y were wives of the same guy. In this story mother of Y counsels her daughter. That her husband loves her equally it is just that the other wife is expecting hence he is giving her more attention. The woman is broken with jealousy, finding hard to accept her fate. I found it such a complicated set up. For a moment I was lost. I have known about this practice but to visualize it in a house is such a tough task. Unlike the Indian drama where in to complicate scenes we bring aunts and uncles in a house and have villa size living set up. Zindagi live has programs like Badi Appa, which can generate similar set up with only one male character in the house. I am not here to judge a religion. Nor do I intend to hurt any sentiments, but it if I place myself at her place, I find it such a pain. How hard it must be to sleep while you know your husband is making out with another women in an adjacent room. Irrespective of my caste and irrespective of my nationality, I sympathize. I feel pain of such women. I surfed some articles on the Internet where women willingly accept this tradition. They counted pros of such an arrangement. Few said that it’s like sharing a father. Father loves all his children equally? Do they? Are we so just. Is it really possible to be precisely just in loving many wife’s. And the wife’s are like sisters. Can women be sisters in an arrangement like this ? May be may be not. But in no state it takes away that such an arrangement is painful and tough. We compete with our class, within our offices, we compete to be the best mothers, but there is one competition I haven’t been a part of. To be a better lover. I wish I never saw a day like that… that’s obviously my personnel choice. ~ from our inbox
Posted on: Sun, 14 Dec 2014 04:16:22 +0000
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