We seem to have created an anti-relational culture that is overdosing on individualism, self-focus, autonomy. We have confused co-regulation with co-dependency, mutuality with mergence. And its not doing any of us much good. Research tells us that pain we feel from experiences such as rejection and loss is experienced the same in the brain as physical pain. We wouldn’t attempt to mend a broken leg on our own, we would seek help. But when it comes to mending our hearts and relationship hurts, NEED (as my teacher Diane Poole Heller would say) has become a four letter word. It is not. It is a natural, human necessity. We all need each other. We need BOTH the capacity for dependence and interdependence. If we truly care, we must take a stand for creating community that is relationally orientated, that supports mutuality, and secure attachment bonds, even when our relationships are vulnerable. Not only for the sake of our current relationships, but also for the health and wellbeing of our future generations.
Posted on: Sun, 11 May 2014 21:49:24 +0000
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