Well it has been challenging the past few weeks. The challenges were all to do with relationships and to be honest some of these relationships left me confused. People are funny to comprehend. The way issues are dealt with, or emotional hurt is presented differs from individual to individual. Some when hurt, lock it up inside and show no expression, others outwardly state they are hurt, some move into silence and do not react to hurt. Each individual is unique and has different hurt but how we deal with it and come out of it is what is important. We have all heard of the ‘be the better man’ concept but do we really understand it? We forgive and look past hurt, but do we really move on? Or is it that the other individual battles with getting over what you did or what he/she did? I tackled this question in three different relationships. One was that the individual had another personal issue to deal with and I had to keep understanding and deal with it in a smart manner. The second was a complete misunderstanding and both of us needed space to let fresh air breathe into the relationship. The third was pure guilt that had settled into the relationship and we both had sunk in and we did not know how to get out of it. With the first two the answer was quite clear and the relationships are healing, but the third I struggled with. I prayed over and over again, constantly evaluated what I had done wrong, I could not find any more fault in myself and I clearly was on the verge of losing it. A relationship I greatly appreciated and needed but it was quite clear it was far beyond mending now. I questioned myself and God, what more can I do? How could I bring peace to this relationship? I tried my very best but without the other party putting in an effort I could not accomplish it. Some individuals come in and move out of your life. Some our lessons and some stay and impart good values in you, but none of them are mistakes. All I could do is love! Not just in speech but in action. I would pray and still do pray for this relationship. I’m still looking for an opportunity to show love, as it is important to do so. Love is not just a word, it is an action. As long as we spread love and invest into a relationship we know individually we did our best and have a clean heart. If the other does not respond, it does not matter. You do your part and have peace within yourself. I did what I could and will continue to do so, I may get hurt but the peace within me is far greater. Stand to be the better man! - Andrew Perera
Posted on: Sun, 13 Jul 2014 13:26:16 +0000
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