Well, once again my dreams have led me to a truth. Ive discovered where a fair portion of my anger comes from: expectation. Over the years, Ive developed a personal code of behavior which, while far from perfect and infallable, works for me. It really upsets me when I fail to live up to this code. But not half as much as it upsets me when OTHER people fail to live up to my code (which, to be fair, I have never codified or made public). I suspect that many of us have these little belief systems, these personal codes, which we never share with another: we just assume that because such activities (or lack thereof) apply to ME, then everyone else should follow them (by telepathy, osmosis, etc). This explains a lot of things -- political parties, social decay, divorce, crimes of passion, war. We all assume, as the protagonist of our own little stories, that everyone is conversant with our rules. This strikes me as more than a little unfair, and monstrously unrealistic unless one clearly defines ones rules to everyone else one meets. So henceforth, I shall strive not to hurl my shoes in anger (sorry Malala). Its not my place to dictate how others behave -- Ive got my hands full with me. I do not expect great initial success: hard experience has shown me the difficulty in changing the course of the Ship of Me. But maybe Ill have a bit more energy for something more constructive. Note, however, that I WILL continue to vent my spleen against nonhumans, incognates and collectives. Fair warning. My first rule is IDENTIFY. My second rule is ANALYZE. My third rule is DECIDE. For me, everything proceeds (albeit in a sometimes non-linear manner) from these rules. And now you know.
Posted on: Sun, 24 Nov 2013 05:48:57 +0000
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