What Does a Codependent Friendship Look Like? Are you unsure about the quality of relationship you have with someone significant in your life? Is it possible you are in a relationship others would call codependent? If so, how would you know? Ask yourself... Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ. (Galatians 1:10) THE CODEPENDENCY CHECKLIST TEST Read through the Codependency Checklist and check (✓) everything that applies to you. ___ Do you struggle with feeling loved, and therefore you look for ways to be needed? ___ Do you throw all of your energy into helping another person? ___ Do you say No when you should say Yes and Yes when you should say No? ___ Do you feel compelled to take charge of another persons crisis? ___ Do you feel drawn to a person whom you think needs to be rescued? ___ Do you have difficulty setting boundaries with another person and keeping them? ___ Do you find it difficult to identify and express your true feelings? ___ Do you rely on another person to make most of the decisions? ___ Do you feel lonely, sad, and empty when you are alone? ___ Do you feel threatened when the person closest to you spends time with someone else? ___ Do you think another persons opinions are more important than your opinions? ___ Do you refrain from speaking in order to keep peace? ___ Do you fear conflict because it could cause you to be abandoned? ___ Do you become defensive about your relationship with another person? ___ Do you feel stuck in your relationship with another person? ___ Do you feel you have lost your personal identity in order to fit into another persons world? ___ Do you feel controlled and manipulated by another person? ___ Do you feel used and taken advantage of by another person? ___ Do you plan your life around another person? ___ Do you prioritize your relationship with another person over your relationship with the Lord? If you responded with a yes to four or more of these questions, you may be involved in a codependent relationship! When we find ourselves in unhealthy patterns of relating, we need to change our focus, change our goals, and change what is hindering us from running the race God has planned for us. Our primary focus should be not on another person but on Jesus.... Let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. (Hebrews 12:1) Friendship: Iron Sharpening Iron.
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