What I find most interesting, out of any other human interaction. Is rationalizations. When someone attempts to justify something. Theyre the most interesting because nine times out of ten, theres absolutely no need to justify anything. So theyre performing. But for who? The answer is often times... themselves. I wouldnt call it a lie, although at times it can be. But I think a lot of people view their friends and family and partners as mirrors. The reflection is the reaction. And they base the conversations direction on the responses given... by either verbal or non-verbal cues. Which is what make rationalizations so interesting. (especially in the on-line setting, because its ONLY words.) Weve all seen it, and weve all done it. But the reasons behind WHY... are what really intrigue me. Fear, is one of the most basic and primal motivators. Love, is a slightly more evolved motivator but ultimately love boils down to fear as well. So rationalizations are different levels of fear emerging in response to a reaction to something weve said or done. The kind of rationalizations I want to talk about though... are the kind that are virtually unprovoked. Opportunistic rationalization, when something is said or done around us that provides an excuse to extinguish a fear weve been holding in our minds... through an ultimately unwarranted response. These are those... knee-jerk responses, the stuff we blurt out unnecessarily to promote an ideal that will prove to OURSELVES that we believe what were saying... by telling others that theyre right or wrong. We provide examples from our own lives, we spout off other people that we know who agree, and it becomes a holy war that started from something that... had almost nothing to do with what were attempting to prove. A tell tail sign of an opportunistic rationalization is personalization. Taking the generality away and replacing it with our own lives. They dont realize it... but in a way theyre arguing with themselves through you. You become the opposing belief that they dont want to accept, thus... the need to respond is too great to ignore. Because if they didnt, It would give that opposing belief a footing to gain traction and could prove detrimental to their persona. THIS... is what is what I love most about all of it... People are uncomfortable with what they believe, unsure about their sanity... theyre so scared of what might be messed up in their minds and lives that their willing to take a stance on and make a stand for their issues at the slightest hint of an opportunity. Their insecurities are their arguments. Whats even MORE exciting... is when those people know you know what theyre doing. This is when you get to see peoples true colors. You will never know a person better than when they begin to flounder upon realizing that their arguing with themselves WHILE their arguing with you. Its not a game either, and if it is, its one they initiated. Theres already something weighing on their minds, otherwise they wouldnt have felt the need to become involved, and once they ARE involved, its really just a subconscious way of admitting their uncertainties... so... yeah... People are fascinating, man. haha
Posted on: Wed, 10 Sep 2014 22:10:04 +0000
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