When I was living in California, I learned a really valuable lesson from my friend David. When he came to the realization that a relationship wasn’t serving his best interests, he would disengage from it. He called the process “cutting the dead wood” from his life. The way he explained it, he had a limited amount of time and energy and he couldn’t expend it on things and people that were keeping him from reaching his own highest good. I was surprised with the ease in which he was able to “release people.” In part, watching the process unfold tapped into my issues with abandonment. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that divesting yourself from those situations and relationships that zap you of your joy and your passion and your happiness is an act of self-love. And because David always released people from a loving space rather than from a place of fear or anger, he was able to make a clean break from unwanted energy. He was masterful at avoiding any future contact with people he had released from his sphere of influence. From time to time, I take an inventory of the kind of energy I have invited into my life. If I come to realize that I am dealing with a toxic energy, I try and disengage from the person and, taking my lead from David, bless them and release them to seek their best life possible. Being a caretaker by nature, there are times when this process can be really difficult. In fact, I have to admit that there are times when I hold onto people, situations and relationships that are harmful to my well-being and happiness because I somehow believe I can save them from their misery (that they have worked so hard to generate). The releasing process itself can be tricky. When I find that I have released a person with a sense of righteous indignation or anger or fear, the results are not very positive and the energy tends to linger. However, when I am able to remember that I am love and that my actions are ultimately loving to both myself and the person being set free, I get very different results. Just for today, take an inventory of the energy that you have invited or summoned you’re your life. If a person is toxic, if a situation is depriving you of your happiness, or if a relationship doesn’t serve your highest good, DECIDE to release it. Bless it with love and let it go. You might be surprised to find that rather than feeling sadness and a sense that you are somehow abandoning yourself, you will feel a lightness and joy. Remember that you need to take responsibility for your happiness. No one else can do that for you! PERIOD! Above all, remember that you are an amazing spiritual being having an amazing human experience. And so it is.
Posted on: Tue, 15 Oct 2013 08:19:13 +0000
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