When and How to Say No James 5:11,We count those blessed who endured. You have heard of the endurance of Job and have seen the outcome of the Lords dealings, that the Lord is full of compassion and is merciful. 12But above all, my brethren, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or with any other oath; but your yes is to be yes, and your no, no, so that you may not fall under judgment.…Matthew 5:36Nor shall you make an oath by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black. 37But let your statement be, Yes, yes or No, no; anything beyond these is of evil. Colossians 4:5,Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity. 6Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person. James 1:19, My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, When and How to Say No Rather than limiting us, boundaries free us to do things that really matter. They help us avoid wasting our time, talents, and energies. Boundaries also protect our hearts from relationships that can be emotionally harmful. People are pretty good at sweet-talking, whining, and begging. But, with practice, you can become even better at saying “no” – without feeling guilty. For example: When a friend asks you to bake your incredible cupcakes for her child’s birthday party (and you don’t have the time, heart, or energy to take on the project), say something like this: “Although I’m unable to bake the cupcakes this time, I can give you the recipe. It’s simple, and I know that you can do a great job.” If someone at church asks you to take on another project (and your plate is already full), try this: “Thank you so much for thinking of me, but I’m unable to take this project on. Maybe you should make an announcement, and give someone else an opportunity to get involved. If a friend asks you to attend a function (but you’re exhausted, or you just don’t feel at peace about going), say this: “I really can’t make it. But, if you find someone else to go with you, please let me know that you made it home safely.” If someone asks you to borrow money (that you can’t lose, or don’t feel led to give), respond with this:“I’m working hard toward certain financial goals. So, although I hope you find a solution, I’m unable to give or loan you the money.” It’s important to be prepared! Therefore, write down – and rehearse – ways to say no to common requests that cause stress and chaos in your life. Don’t be caught off guard, and never feel guilty about protecting your heart, health, and life’s purpose. You’re not called to be the solution to everyone’s problem – that’s God’s job. Unfortunately many get into troubled relationships because they simply ignore the first early warning signs to have said No politely and get on with their life in peace, so much heartbreaks and hurst and regrets can easily be avoided by simple NO from the onset, friendships should not always be aimed at manipulations into relationships that is neither God ordained or realistic but propmted by lust of the flesh and be wise to see the red flag and be respectful to stand your holy ground with a capital honorable NO
Posted on: Sun, 02 Feb 2014 05:40:28 +0000
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