Whether or not I pass is not the reason I am trans or am medically transitioning. I recently went to a new doctor who felt the need to explain to me that I pass well, am attractive, and that makes me a success story. Aside from how uncomfortable this made me feel on an ethical level, this says more about this person than it does about me. It tells me that they expect to be able to spot whether or not someone is trans. It tells me that they expect to be able to do so because they assume well be the unattractive one in the crowd. It tells me that they have low expectations of me if my success is singularly based on my looks (not necessarily what I achieve with them like models do). I work hard. Im a good student. Im a loyal friend. I create things. I help people. While being perceived as your gender increases your safety, all of these things matter infinitely more than passing with regards to my life being successful. Im a success story, because Im proud and refuse to give up, not because some folks feel fooled after hitting on me.
Posted on: Fri, 25 Apr 2014 20:46:12 +0000