Why My Relationship Status is “Single at 22. For most girls my age, we constantly get questions about who we like, if there are any “potentials” or maybe my favorite, when am I going to get in a serious relationship and get married. Everyone has a different answer. But for me, it’s pretty simple: because I am no where near ready to get married nor do I want to. To make that answer a little more in depth and understandable, I did some soul searching and came up with 5 good reasons why I, Jocelyn Swann, am not in a serious relationship right now in my life. Here comes the explanations…. Reason #1. I’m not the person I would want someone to fall in love with. I believe it’s the utmost importance to figure my crap out before I try and figure someone else’s out. Most of the time, I can’t keep my own life together. I have a lot more growing up to do. As an individual, I am no where near the person I want to become. For me, I want someone to fall in love with a Proverbs 31 woman, not someone who only lives out a few of those verses. Reason #2. To Get Married” is #21 on my Bucket List I’ve only been on this earth for 22 years. I have A TON OF LIVING TO DO. I want to be spontaneous without having to ask someone else for permission first. I want to travel the world. I want to kiss random foreign boys. I want to dance the night away…on multiple occasions. I want to live out of a suitcase and pursue my wildest dreams. I want to be old and tell stories about my twenties. I don’t want my craziest stories to be about college. I want the stories I tell my grandkids to start with “This one crazy time in (insert city)…. Reason #3. I’m not ready to live the “American Dream” When I was younger, me and my sister would play house. We would act like we had husbands and kids and that life was everything we wanted it to be. I thought that was all I wanted when I “grew up”. Well, that’s changed drastically. I’m not ready to settle down and become a mother. I’m not ready to have someone else’s life in my hands. I’m not ready to grow old in a two-story house with my 4 kids. I’m just not about that life right now. Reason #4. I’m not ready to not be selfish. I think this one is pretty self explanatory. I’m not good at sharing with others…. Reason #5. I’m quite nervous. For multiple reasons. I have INCREDIBLE role models for how a marriage should be. Examples that include, but are not limited to, my parents, my siblings, both sets of grandparents, my aunts & uncles, multiple people in my dad’s church. The list could go on and on. I’m nervous because of the way society has labeled marriage. The way divorce is ramped through Christian homes. I’m nervous that 20 years down the road, the man I married will look at me and have no feelings for me anymore. Marriage isn’t as simple as it used to be. So, until the guy that God has for me comes into my life, I don’t plan on settling for anyone else. I find it ridiculous to give a piece of my heart away to someone who doesn’t deserve it. I am only 22 years young and I plan on living my life with no regrets and most definitely no “what if’s”. I know that God has a man picked out for me. A man that loves God with everything in him, will love me unconditionally, make me laugh so hard I almost pee, is ruggedly handsome, and has the same dreams as I do. Quite honestly, I look forward to that day. But until then, I am going to live life, SINGLE & HAPPY!!
Posted on: Wed, 08 Oct 2014 02:18:41 +0000