Why does anyone ever allow themselves to chase the affections of someone who is obviously resisting them? (Of course deep down we already know that answer.) But often, as we are there...dont we realize we are digging a literal crater around this individual (even IF they let you in...in the exact moment you want them to) that they are not emotionally ready for? And as you set the bar for what you are so willing to do [in action] to make the relationship happen...you need to realize the person is going to keep expecting you to constantly be digging for them...even when it is clear you should really be done by now. Digging for a person can become an addictive game. Its the co-dependent (so-called) proof that we care-that this person learns how to require in order to satisfy the insecurity they refuse to resolve within. Helping someone else do the emotional work THEY need to learn how to do for themselves is another way of saying you have no real belief in their own ability to self transcend and people need that in life. Here is a factual life truth: In order to facilitate real, effective and lasting life changes...people need to be willing to feel the burn in order to make the turn! I say find a better way to use all that energy you are so willing to give and openly attract (and manifest) toward you someone willing to pick up another shovel and help you with the dig. That is the kind of person you want consistently around you. Not the one standing around waiting (and hoping) that you will start digging again before they have to! >
Posted on: Sun, 07 Sep 2014 19:51:41 +0000
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