With many of us going about getting ready for this Christmas holiday season, we must remember that there are those grieving the loss of a loved one. Here are a few tips to help you or someone you know handle the stress of losing a loved one and getting through the holidays. Be realistic. The holiday season is going to be different and possibly not at all festive in your mind without your loved one. You might experience anger or frustration, along with intense sorrow. You do not have to do it all. Perhaps in the past you were the one who made the lavish meal at Thanksgiving or had all the grand kids over at Christmas. The first years, and especially the first year of holidays without your loved might, be a time for you to curb the many activities you once did. You may not have the energy to cook, bake, or entertain. Let someone else do the work. Create a new tradition that encompasses your loved ones memory. This can be done by lighting a candle in his or her memory at the meal time, or by having each one around the dinner table share a short story about the deceased. There is no right or wrong. Handle the holidays the best you can. If you choose not to participate in a particular service or outing due to your grief, do not judge or be critical of yourself. Take care of you. Be sure to eat healthy meals and get the rest you need. If journaling your thoughts or emotions helps, buy a journal and pen your feelings. Writing is therapeutic for many. One day at a time. You will survive the holidays without your loved one. One day the season will end and you will see that you lived through each day. What an accomplishment!
Posted on: Fri, 12 Dec 2014 02:35:57 +0000