Words in getting a life partner Your decision at salvation, nothing seems more important than the choice of a life partner. Marriage never leaves you the way you were before you embarked on it. You are either bettered or worse- never the same. First things first, God is more interested in our lives than we are. He loves us more than we can ever love ourselves. If we approach the puzzling issues of life with that consciousness then it takes the burden of making things work off of us to a caring Father who will make all things beautiful in his own time. The story told us in Gen 24 reveals God’s eternal pattern for dealing with relationship and marriage issues. God has never planned for us to shoulder the responsibilities of our lives. He’s a caring father and all He wants is our trust and faith in Him that he’d make all things beautiful in His own time. Pls take the time to study this passage and see the mind of the Father concerning marriage. In treating this issue I’d like to start with a portion of scripture that has been misunderstood and misappropriated over the years. Proverbs 18:22 “[Whoso] findeth a wife findeth a good [thing], and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Without proper study of this scripture the cursory reader which the most part of the Church has been on this issue would come to the conclusions that it’s a man’s personal responsibility to find and choose a wife. Firstly that’s against God’s Word. God wants to be Lord- involved in our entire decision making. Otherwise we simply have become our own gods. He intends absolute involvement and He wont back out now on an issue as important as marriage! Secondly, there are principles of scriptural interpretation one of which is etymological studies. In the Hebrew the word translated ‘find’ has both an active and a passive form. The active form indicates a conscious search; the passive form refers to simply discovering what has been provided. Solomon use the later. That word connotes the idea of meeting up with something, being present, acquiring a provision. The point is this God s the one who makes the provision man simply makes a discovery. Marriage is a discovery as you follow the path of destiny. God’s plan is that as we pursue destiny within the orbit of His will following His every instruction our life partners will be caught up with, be present. God has stationed that person on your path in life. Your job is to follow Him and that person will be discovered along the path. Furthermore s regards scriptural interpretation; you cannot interpret a scripture in isolation. You must do so within the context in the passage and comparing it with other scriptures especially in the New Testament. In that particular verse it’s stated that such a man has found a good thing and such is a manifestation of God’s favour or goodness or mercy. In essence a wife is a blessing from God meaning that you’d get a wife the way you get every other good thing from God- BY FAITH! Choosing a life partner will have to be done by faith not by emotions. Let your emotions follow your faith not otherwise. Apostle James declares in James 1:16-17 “Do not err, my beloved brethren. Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.” A life partner and a wife are good and perfect gifts from God. Settle that once and for all. That’s as well in keeping with what Solomon said. So a wife isn’t the result of your search but a gift from God. Paul talking about gifts says you don’t get a gift by your works but by grace which is the result of your faith. Rom 4:4-5 “Now to him that worketh is the reward not reckoned of grace, but of debt. But to him that worketh not, but believeth on him that justifieth the ungodly, his faith is counted for righteousness.” The point is this stop- all your struggling trying to pick and impress someone and know that God has the best plan for your life- He makes all things beautiful in His own time. If it’s established that a life partner and marriage are good gifts from God then we’d have to employ the law of Faith in settling it. One of my greatest discoveries on this issue was reading our study text(prov 18:22) in context. Let me show you- Proverbs 18:20-22 A mans belly shall be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth; [and] with the increase of his lips shall he be filled. Death and life [are] in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. [Whoso] findeth a wife findeth a good [thing], and obtaineth favour of the LORD. Solomon here is linking the law of faith-confessions with getting a wife. It’s God’s plan that you get a wife like any other good thing in the Kingdom-by your Faith-Confessions. This is how it works-NEVER confess what you like or want. Speak forth of a woman that can be a help meet in that thing God has called you to do. Speak forth of a man who can be the Head-Priest administrating in power and wisdom the visions God has placed deep within your heart. Describe him/her with God’s will for your life, not by complexion and bust-size. You do the speaking and let God do the providing. Your words create an electromagnetic fore field attracting everything that’s in keeping with those words- including a life partner. Let me end with this- Proverbs 19:14 “House and riches [are] the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife [is] from the LORD.” The same way fathers lay up an inheritance for their children, God is actively at work to give you a prudent spouse. Rest in the goodness of God and quit your struggles. Please watch out for more teachings on this subject. Grace& Peace
Posted on: Wed, 13 Aug 2014 01:10:29 +0000
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