Wow.... Got a scathing private message tonight from someone I knew for a long time. Since Zach was a toddler.....And we used to see each other sporadically on and off until 2005. We both had weight loss surgery at the same time in 2001. But she also did see me when I was gainfully employed single mother of 1 and then 2 when after Zoe was born, and how happy my children and I were. And while I had complications, I still got my certification as a Personal Trainer, just by the time I got it, I was too sick to work. It included some gems like that I cant possibly be exercising the way I say that I am and its fishy that I use different tools to monitor my exercise, am I just trying to pull a fast one and use apps or my Fitbit on buses? Seriously??? For one, I use apps like RunKeeper for Walking because I dont bring my Fitbit when I go to my bfs house. Secondly, I wouldnt lie about it. Nor do I think I am any better or worse than those who dont work out. Nor did I fail my gastric bypass and my apparent revision. But this person has made also very backhanded comments when I was at my thinnest and fittest, that I had to be bulemic and an exercise junkie. And when I had my reversal, that couldnt possibly happen as I was not severely underweight at the time, but overweight and that I had to have had a revision, which she is trying to have and cant understand why I cant be more helpful in giving her information about my revision. Um, Okay. I still tried to see the positives of an association with that person. But telling me Im pathetic to bring up exercise and lucky that I have so much free time, not working and not raising my kids alluding that I was selfish, was a low blow. I dont bring up my exercising to make anyone feel bad, who either chooses not to exercise or cant because of health reasons. Because I have a lot of free time, cant work again, cant drive a car, cant go back to school, its helping me work on both being physically and mentally a little more agile. And I do get an endorphin high, now, most of the time. I dont get it. I am happy for the good things in my friendss lives. And try to be supportive when things are bad. While I try to make the best of what my current life circumstances are, the best time of my life was when I was actively and lovingly a mother to my 2 beautiful kids. And she saw how bonded we were. While I unfriended and blocked her, now she knows why if she goes on her husbands account, why. I can deal with the hate I get anonymously from people on the internet as a result of my blog. Because it helps a lot of people. I cannot understand those who for whatever reason, have nothing better to do than to try to emotionally eviscerate someone they were friends with at one time. And Ive made an effort to stay in touch with her. Shame on her..... :(
Posted on: Thu, 09 Oct 2014 02:06:58 +0000