Yesterday I was speaking to one of my new friends. After our chat, I decided I havent cried enough recently. So with very little sleep under my belt, I popped out to Angelas grave. Yep, thatll do it. In fact Im drafting this as I sit her with her. What strikes me as I lie here, is the privilege that she so willingly took my name. I look at the little cross that marks her final resting place and see her beautiful name, “Angela Sunkel” As a man, its an enormous responsibility to marry and have someone else give up so much for you, even their identity. Angela was a Smith for almost 30 years and very proud of it, yet she died a Sunkel after having been married for less than five months. I have often thanked Anges parents for giving her to me and letting her be a Sunkel, and I mean that. But at the end, she was fiercely a Sunkel. She was proud of being a married woman. She was as proud of taking my name, as I was of her taking it. It is indeed a massive two-way commitment to fully give yourself to someone else. And Im not talking about the name thing. Im talking about entering a relationship full stop. Any relationship. We never start a relationship, thinking it wont last (well most dont). But somewhere along the way, all too often, things go a bit pear shaped and we quit. Ive quit relationships in the past, dont get me wrong. I just hope there arent those out there who should, and could be working harder on theirs. Ive used the cliché before love is a verb, but its so very true. Love, no matter whether romantic, friendship or child-parent, takes effort. Love is a doing word. Tomorrow is Christmas Day, what better time to look at all the people most special to you, and commit to being more active in your love for them. Live a life youre proud of. Be Better. Love Better. Today this comes from both Angela and I xx
Posted on: Tue, 23 Dec 2014 16:59:00 +0000
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