Yesterday a friend of ours paid us a visit in the office. It was great for she was able to break the monotony inside the tiny four corners of the room. Plus, I find exchanging conversations while working would make the day pass so quickly. That is why we consider her visit to be very entertaining. What she shared was very interesting. Let’s gossip a bit here… Ha! Ha! Ha! It was regarding her story when she had a meeting with her friend wherein, both of them have husbands who are engaged in the same sports and spends a lot of time practicing and playing. It was also during their conversation that her friend said: “Don’t you wish we were nurses?” “Why?” our friend asked. “Because a nurse is receiving a high salary here in the U.S.?!” And, if are nurses definitely our husbands would listen to us!?” What I heard made me stop. It was like I have an apple on my head that was hit by an arrow and made me froze for a bit. What’s interesting is because my wife is also a nurse. And what we’ve been through was not a smooth process. As a matter of fact we are still learning…I am still learning. What I realized from what she shared is that as a husband, I have always been thinking of “What I want” e.g. What I want to have, What I want to do etc. It’s always about me. It’s more on the “I” thing. But have I considered about what my wife wants? I have the tendency to assume. I also learned that most women don’t care about expensive things. I used to have the idea that if I shower my wife with expensive gifts that she’ll be fine. That it would make up for my short comings. What she wants is for me to be there. I also used to think a wife’s silence is an indication that everything’s alright and she’s happy with what’s going on. But it’s not. For she only wants me to be happy that’s why she prefers to be quiet. Her silence is also her way of compromise. “Listen” and “Time” is what they want. I know I still need a lot of work when it comes to honing my listening skills as a husband. When it comes to spending some time I think I’m getting there. Like what I said, this isn’t a smooth process but with prayers we know we are fine. There’s always room for change i.e. positive change. Let’s keep in mind that “I want you!” is entirely different with the words “I LOVE YOU”. For the latter is intended to those who are alive and have feelings. 1 Peter 3:7 (ESV) Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
Posted on: Tue, 08 Jul 2014 15:54:35 +0000
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