You can put your foot down all you want, but when a man knows you wil not pick it up to walk away, he WILL repeat his behaviour you disapprove of. I think the initial phase, the honeymoon phase of a relationship sets the dynamic of the entire relationship. Sometimes we are so in love that we overlook the little things, but time only serves to aggravate what we will not confront and address. A lot of the times we think loyalty, honesty, trustworthiness, accountability and all those things are automatic to everyone when they enter a relationship, but everyone has a different idea of constitutes each one of these things, your idea of loyalty is not necessarily the same as your partner. We are constantly encouraged to be friends first, get a feel of the type of person they are, their character traits and all that and even when we start dating, make sure you are on the same page with what the expectations are, where the relationship is heading or what your ultimate goal is as a couple. We are so afraid to drive a person away with serious talk too soon and we are afraid of ruining our chances that we will not confront them and or disapprove their behaviour and make it audibly clear what is and is not acceptable right from the onset. People are prone to testing limits, your tolerance level and if you will not confront something in the beginning, if from the beginning they come to realise that they can just go ahead and do something and maybe apologise, you will be okay, then chances are, they will repeat that behaviour. You can be independent all you want, but if a man realises that you are emotionally dependant, that you are unable to call a thing a thing and walk away if necessary, he knows your fights are just your way of venting that you really will not do nothing to change anything and you are going to get caught in the same cycle..
Posted on: Thu, 03 Oct 2013 04:59:30 +0000
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