You cannot please everybody. Some people are impossible to please. Whatever you do, they will find fault with it. When others criticise your behaviour, remember that they are not criticising you, but your behaviour. Remember too, that most people are not good at distinguishing between you and your behaviour. So in a moment of frustration, you may say something rude. As a result you may be accused of being rude in a statement such as: “Dont be so rude!” The truth is that you only said something rude. It was your behaviour only that was rude. This is not a question of identity. You are not a rude person just because you spoke rudely. It is important that you separate yourself from your behaviour. You are a Winner, an awesome person who did something that was not so intelligent or even perhaps rude. You made a mistake. Apologize and move on. If the criticism is valid then learn from it, but don’t take it as a personal attack on yourself. If your supervisor is unhappy with your work, dont see it as a personal criticism. There is nothing wrong with you. It is your work that s/he is not happy with. Find out what is required, learn the skills if you need them, and then do what is required. This is not about your worth or value as a human being. It is all about the contribution that you get paid to make. You are a wonderful person. You can’t control what other say to you, but you can control how you let it affect you. Always apologize if you have offended someone. Even if it was unintentional. Many who suffer from a negative self-image also suffer from guilt. This is normal because often a person will think; “There is something wrong with me”. Guilt then naturally occurs as soon as a slight offence is committed against anyone or anything. Guilt is not bad, but not being able to rid oneself of that guilt can be disastrous to developing a positive self-image. Therefore it is essential to simply apologize, sincerely, whenever you offend anyone. Realize that you have apologized, and move on. It is now up to the offended party to forgive you and move on. If they do not forgive you, it is not your problem, but theirs. You have done what is required. Your conscience can be clear. Believe it. Understand criticism of your behaviour and dont let it make you feel unnecessary negative emotions
Posted on: Tue, 21 Oct 2014 06:59:12 +0000