Your Friends Don’t Need to Hear About It: 6 Times 2 Keep Quiet About ur MARITAL RELATIONSHIP If u’re like most women today, u’ve grown up on the tell-all tales of s*x and the City. You might’ve even modeled ur own group of friends on the idea of no-holds-barred sharing and caring. 1. “He’s Perfect!” No, he or she is not. Bottom line. It’s understandable, especially in the beginning, that you want to feel (and make your friends feel) as though you’ve made a real catch. But when the inevitable problems come down the pike later on, you could end up with undue feelings of guilt and embarrassment because of your previous bragging. It may keep you in the relationship longer than you should be. You may also have to deal with uncalled for reactions from your friends when the truth comes out. 2. “He Never…!” This is the opposite of bragging and it can be as equally damaging. First of all, it can give your friends a healthy dislike for your mate. When someone puts a ring on it, you’ll be dealing with all kinds of backlash from people who think you’re making a mistake. After all, your partner just can’t do anything right. How can they be the one for you? If you’re going to share with your friends, make sure you’re humble enough to point out a real picture of your significant other. 3. “He Cheated On Me” They might always hold a grudge against your guy, even if you’ve decided to forgive. If the relationship is over, then, of course, feel free to shout it to the rooftops that he did you wrong. 4. Money Problems Sharing money problems can be disrespectful to your partner. And you never know when someone you’ve told will let the cat out of the bag, offering to pay, making an awkward situation. Men are especially sensitive about money, so be respectful if he’s going through a budget-conscious time. It’s okay to tell your friends you’re staying in for a movie night without telling them why. You’d probably hope for the same discretion if the tables were turned, too. 5. Intimate Bedroom Details Whether good or bad, this can break your intimacy with your partner, create insecurity if they find out you’ve spilled the beans and also foster unfair judgements from your friends that leads you to poor decision making later on. Yikes! If it’s good, say so. 6. Name Calling and Gossiping We also tend to bring up personal issues in our partners’ lives that aren’t our friends’ business, we backslide into gossip territory. Something like, “And then he told his therapist…which makes him crazy.” Just don’t do it. This is a time to write a diary entry instead
Posted on: Sun, 16 Mar 2014 11:42:25 +0000