having someone break up with you is so gut-wrenching hard. it triggers feelings of rejection, of not being enough, of being too much. it makes you question all of who you are - was i fun enough, was i smart enough, was i good looking enough, was i kind enough, was i cool enough, was i interesting enough? and then you wonder, should i have invested so much of myself? did i share too much of myself? did i hide too much of myself? and what if - what if i dont find someone else? what if someone else doesnt ever fall in love with me again? so you grieve and resist and grieve and rationalize and grieve and get angry and grieve. and grieve some more. and maybe even lament. and surely, youll find everything inside of you to accept what is, to let go...of him, of her. but maybe, just maybe, its not only about you letting go of him or her. its that YOU needed to be let go of, released - to do YOUR thing, to be able to move onto the next season in your life, to soar. because maybe your story is headed in a direction that maybe it couldnt have, wouldnt have, if that person had stayed in relationship with you. and so you find peace, you find hope, knowing that you can take all that you had, all that you learned, all that you became in that relationship, with you. forwards. and youll know, that loss always means change and that change always means loss and that good and hard usually exists together. and that is where the invitation to hold both can mysteriously lead to transformation, to new life. #therapistthoughts
Posted on: Tue, 19 Aug 2014 01:38:43 +0000
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