letter to my mother.. ..now....( and jacob,,,, at the right time ).. do u remember when i was jacobs age? do u recall the shouting matches we had?do u remember telling me i was certainly the most difficult child needing raised in all history of children having been raised? u werent so easy to deal with either mom. i wasent a perfect child and im not perfect now. but neither are u now or ever were u a perfect mother.. and now its my turn to be the best mother i can be.. im doing the very best i can. ur constant criticizms certainly do not help me be a better mother ,i will make mistakes and i will learn from them but i must do as i can and makes any mistakes or progresseses and victories , in my own experience. and I AM HIS MOTHER ,. its for me to correct him when i think hes wrong and do my best to make sure he knows whats right and what is wrong. if that means i have the last word, well, thats as it should be, no matter what u think.now, as his parent,i decide what lessons he learns ,how and when. when u put in ur two cents, u empower him to continue his behaviors because im a full grown woman now and any punnishments u give me now are really a moot point at this time..u raised me .i will raise jacob..if u wish to help, try supporting me . try explaining why u think ur way is better rather than just tearing me down...in 17 or so years,im sure i will think myself much wiser than jacobs wife and wiser than i was (am) now but i swear, i will do my utmost to remember all this now and ,in front of the children, keep my mouth shut.i will try to later advise in as understanding and supportive a way as i can.........i do my best to remain calm and patient with u mother.but please, please,u r not helping anyone but urself feel better. will u please shut it. if u must, talk to me later,privately.and remember,we are very very different people who do things in very different ways. simply because my way isnt ur way, it in no way means i an wrong simply because its not ur way. jacob is my son and i will raise him in the best way i see fit to do it. also, i know its hard for all of us living so closely as we do .however simply everyone shutting up wont make any changes in his behavior or attitude. ur involving urself is not constructive or helpful. so please... hush.
Posted on: Fri, 09 Aug 2013 22:59:20 +0000