( 14 ) And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination. ( 15 ) But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do.(Quran:31-Luqman) ( 15 ) And We have enjoined upon man, to his parents, good treatment. His mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship, and his gestation and weaning [period] is thirty months. [He grows] until, when he reaches maturity and reaches [the age of] forty years, he says, My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to work righteousness of which You will approve and make righteous for me my offspring. Indeed, I have repented to You, and indeed, I am of the Muslims. ( 16 ) Those are the ones from whom We will accept the best of what they did and overlook their misdeeds, [their being] among the companions of Paradise. [That is] the promise of truth which they had been promised.(Quran:46-Al-Ahqaf) 316. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: A person came to Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and asked, Who among people is most deserving of my fine treatment? He (PBUH) said, Your mother. He again asked, ``Who next? Your mother, the Prophet (PBUH) replied again. He asked, Who next? He (the Prophet (PBUH)) said again, Your mother. He again asked, Then who? Thereupon he (PBUH) said, Then your father. In another narration: O Messenger of Allah! Who is most deserving of my fine treatment? He (PBUH) said, Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then your nearest, then nearest. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. Commentary: This Hadith tells us that the rights of the mother are three times more important than that of the father for the reasons that: 1 She is weaker than the father. 2. The following three troubles are borne exclusively by the mother while the father does not share them with her: a) She carries the baby in her womb for nine months, b) The labor pain which she suffers. c) Two years period of suckling which disturbs her sleep at night and affects her health. She has also to be very cautious in her food for the welfare of the baby. 317. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced, whose parents, one or both, attain old age during his life time, and he does not enter Jannah (by rendering being dutiful to them). [Muslim]. Commentary: The word ``Ragham means soil. When a persons nose is soiled, it is a mark of his extreme humiliation. This metaphor carries a curse for an unfortunate person who does not win the pleasure of Allah by serving and obeying his parents. In fact, it is a malediction as well as a prediction of someones inauspicious end. Service of parents is essential at every stage of their life - whether they are young or old. But this Hadith mentions their old age for the reason that in that period of their life they stand in greater need of care and service. It is a very callous offense to leave them at the mercy of circumstances when they are old, senile and depend on others for their needs. To neglect them at that stage is a major sin for which one deserves Hell-fire. 336. Abu Bakrah Nufai` bin Al-Harith (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, Shall I not inform you of the biggest of the major sins? Messenger of Allah (PBUH) asked this question thrice. We said, Yes, O Messenger of Allah. (Please inform us.). He said, Ascribing partners to Allah, and to be undutiful to your parents. Messenger of Allah (PBUH) sat up from his reclining position and said, And I warn you against giving forged statement and a false testimony; I warn you against giving forged statement and a false testimony. Messenger of Allah (PBUH) kept on repeating that warning till we wished he would stop. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. Commentary: This Hadith mentions some of the major sins. A major sin is one against which there is a serious warning in the Noble Quran and Hadith. When disobedience to parents is mentioned along with Shirk (polytheism), it makes the fact evident that both of these are very serious sins. Similar is the case of telling a lie and false testimony, which in the incident mentioned in this Hadith made Messenger of Allah (PBUH) to leave his pillow and sit attentively. It indicates that the latter two are serious. May Allah protect all Muslims from all such sins. 337. Abdullah bin `Amr bin Al-`as (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, (Of the) major sins are: to ascribe partners to Allah, disobey parents, murder someone, and to take a false oath (intentionally). [Al-Bukhari]. Commentary: There are many more major sins which have been enlisted and discussed at length by Muhaddathun in independent volumes, such as Az-Zawajir `an iqtraf-al-Kabair, Kitab-al-Kabair by Adh-Dhahabi. This Hadith mentions some of the major sins enumerated by the Prophet (PBUH) on a particular occasion. We can also say that the sins mentioned here are some of the most serious among the major sins. 338. `Abdullah bin `Amr bin Al-`as (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, It is one of the gravest sins to abuse ones parents. It was asked (by the people): O Messenger of Allah, can a man abuse his own parents? Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, He abuses the father of somebody who, in return, abuses the formers father; he then abuses the mother of somebody who, in return, abuses his mother. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. Another narration is: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, One of the major sins is to curse ones parents. It was submitted: O Messenger of Allah! How can a man curse his own parents? He (PBUH) said, When someone curses the parents of another man who in return abuses the formers father; and when someone abuses the mother of another man who in return abuses his mother. Commentary: We learn from this Hadith that one should not abuse anyones parents, because in the event, he is paid in the same coin, he will be responsible for disgracing his own parents. 339. Abu Muhammad Jubair bin Mut`im (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, The person who severs the bond of kinship will not enter Jannah. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. Commentary: This Hadith poses a serious threat to those who violate the Divine injunctions of maintaining good ties of kinship. In spite of such a serious warning, this major sin is very common in our present-day society. The purpose of this warning is that Muslims prevent themselves from it. May Allah save us from it. 319. Anas (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, He who desires ample provisions and his life be prolonged, should maintain good ties with his blood relations. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. Commentary: One who is benevolent and compassionate towards ones own relatives, stands to gain at least two definite advantages in this world besides the reward in the next. These two advantages are the increase in his subsistence and longevity of life. Increase in subsistence means that Almighty Allah will increase the quantity of his worldly goods or his means of subsistence will be blessed by Him. Similar is the case of longevity of life. The life of such person is either actually increased (in terms of years) or his life is graced with the Blessings of Allah. Both interpretations are correct. 321. `Abdullah bin `Amr bin Al-`as (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: A man came to the Prophet (PBUH) of Allah and said, I swear allegiance to you for emigration and Jihad, seeking reward from Allah. He (PBUH) said, Is any of your parents alive? He said, Yes, both of them are alive. He (PBUH) then asked, Do you want to seek reward from Allah? He replied in the affirmative. Thereupon Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, Go back to your parents and keep good company with them. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. In another narration it is reported that a person came to Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and sought his permission to participate in Jihad. The Prophet (PBUH) asked, Are your parents alive? He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet a(PBUH) said, (You should) consider their service as Jihad. Commentary: Under normal circumstances, Jihad is Fard Kifayah (collective duty -- which means that if some people observe it, the rest of the Muslims will be exempted from its obligation). In such circumstances permission of parents to participate in Jihad is necessary because their service is Fard-ul-`ain (individual duty -- an injunction or ordinance, the obligation of which extends to every Muslim in person), and the former cannot be preferred to the latter. This Hadith explains such a situation. In certain circumstances, however, Jihad becomes Fard-ul-`ain and in that case permission of the parents to take part in Jihad is not essential because then every Muslim is duty-bound to take part in it. 325. Asma bint Abu Bakr As-Siddiq (May Allah be pleased with her) said: My mother came to me while she was still a polytheist, so I asked Messenger of Allah (PBUH), My mother, who is ill-disposed to Islam, has come to visit me. Shall I maintain relations with her? He (PBUH) replied, Yes, maintain relations with your mother. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. Commentary: The woman mentioned in this Hadith had come from Makkah to Al-Madinah. What this Hadith signifies is that it is essential to be kind to parents even if they are Mushrikun (polytheists) and Kuffar (disbelievers). This has also been clearly ordained in the Noble Quran: ``... but behave with them in the world kindly. (31:15). ........................
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