6 Signs That You’re Ready For A Long Term Relationship #1) Your Tastes are Changing They say girls always like the “bad boys”, but what tends to happen is that the women who want to be in long term relationships tend to see through the games and become open to men who are really open to them. The bad boys can be fun for dating, but when they’re in their bad boy phase they generally aren’t ready to settle down. Women generally know this on some level whether they can admit to or not. So if you find some of the allure falling away from the type you’ve been going for in the past, and feel yourself finding different things interesting about men, you might be more ready for a long term relationship. Of course this depends on what your tastes are changing towards, but when it towards more stability and less drama, it’s generally a step towards commitment. #2) You Don’t Assume a Relationship Will Complete You In many cases we find the person we’re supposed to be with when we’re happy where we are, and that includes feeling complete on our own. No one will ever be completely happy in a relationship without being completely happy with themselves. This goes for everything in life, including jobs, finances, family, and friends. If you are not inherently happy no amount of money in the world can change that. If you’re already happy however, adding on anything else great to the equation can only increase your happiness levels even more. Seeking out relationships to fill a hole is never going to fill it, but becoming whole creates all the space necessary to embrace a long term relationship. #3) You Understand the Importance of Communication Nothing marks maturity quite like making good communication choices. This includes listening and responding to other people as well as listening and expressing what you’re feeling inside. It means speaking up when you need to be heard, embracing criticism, honoring other people’s opinions, operating from a place of respect, and choosing your battles wisely. People who not ready for long term relationships might tend to put their own thoughts ahead of everyone else’s no matter the consequences, cop attitudes for no reason but to assert their position of power, make it difficult for a partner to express themselves to them, or ignore them completely. You know you’re ready for a real long term relationship when you understand the importance of communication and are willing to make some changes in how you do it to fit someone else happily into your emotional and physical space. #4) You’re Not Hung Up on Anyone Else There’s a difference between having an ex that will always mean something to you and being totally hung up on someone. When we’re hung up on men we might be still dating them, still trying to hang out with them (if they are our exes), or even daydream about men coming back to us that don’t have any specific plans to. There’s nothing wrong with that per se, but to fully embrace a new relationship it’s helpful not to have one foot in another one. Letting go of past relationships is crucial not just to be fully available to someone new, but to allow the space for reflection and healing from any past hurts we went through in those past relationships. If you don’t learn what went wrong, how to do it differently, and then forgive yourself for any of your faults, you’re just going to keep repeating the same mistakes. We all make them, and often, but when you can take responsibility for the paths you’ve gone down and realize what you might do differently in the future, that’s when you’re thinking like someone who’s ready to give it another go. #5) You’re Comfortable Being Alone People who aren’t ready for long term relationships but need to be with someone at all time might find themselves jumping from relationship to relationship, even if they aren’t the ideal situation. That cycle can end by finding the right person to be with, but often it requires some downtime to sort through some things and decide what we really want in a relationship. You know you’re really ready for a long term relationship when you have taken some totally single time for yourself and you’re completely comfortable and happy with who you are, whether there is someone by your side or not. #6) You Want to Be Good We all want to be good at things, but there comes a time in maturing when we just want to be a good person (on top of everything else). Wanting to be the best version of yourself and taking steps to do so is a great sign you’re ready for a long term relationship, because it means that you’re comfortable taking responsibility and making compromises with yourself. When you can make compromises and choices to do things better for yourself, you’re often ready to do them for other people as well. The ability to embrace the things the about yourself that you would like to change is also making you more compassionate towards other people doing the same. You don’t expect a man to be perfect, but rather perfect for yo
Posted on: Mon, 26 Jan 2015 10:36:00 +0000
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