Hohohoho... -_- This is an expression of what I feel, you might agree with it, and you might also disagree.. It doesnt mean Im a feminist.. But if you think I am, then you are a male chauvinist.. Again, № insults!!! Reasonable arguments pls, if you cant make one.. Ignore!!! I grew up with 3males, Im the only girl child. My mum made my brothers cook, sweep and do house chores, the same way she made me do house chores, cook, clean and other domestic jobs. She didnt say, because you are female, do this so that a man would marry you. Today, my brothers cook well and aint lagging behind. It didnt make them much less of a man, but rather it made them full grown men. My mum always said, finish your school first, make your first million, then husband will come that will make you proud. She didnt tell me, get married, do this to find a husband, she didnt tell me that I have to hold a man down, neither did she teach me that if I dont hold a man another woman would. My mum uses 3names, the name my dad gave her, my dads name and her fathers name. It didnt make my dad feel less like a man, neither did it mean shes not married to him. It meant, oh! He understands that its her brand, as long as she has his name, then cool. A newly wedded wife got married 7mths ago, according to her story, shes well known with her fathers name for 10yrs. She bears her husbands name and also her dads name. Her husband doesnt want her bearing her fathers name and hes insisting she drops the name. Its her professional name, she cant, but hes insisting. Lemme pause.. The Yoruba actress, Fathia Balogun is a name shes known as, yes shes separated with her husband Saheed Balogun, but she cant drop the name Balogun, because thats her brand. Her ex-husband Saheed wants her to drop his name, but she doesnt want to. If she uses another name apart from Balogun, I might not know her again. Ashley Cole of Chelsea got married to his ex-wife Cheryl Cole, they are divorced , shes married to another man but she doesnt want to drop the Cole name, because thats her brand now... Chimamanda Adiche is married but she doesnt want to change her name or even attach her husbands name, because its her brand. Shes well known by that name.. When the news of her still bearing her fathers name and not her husbands name was up, Nigerian ladies(the bittered ones that are just(I dont even know how to describe them)) blasted her... Now back to the 7months married woman. This woman needed piece of advice, but instead of good points, bittered ladies twisted it to something else. Telling her to change it or some other ladies that are ready to change their names will snatch her husband.. Im always wondering, why do ladies make that statement?? Ladies, like you, you, you and you.. If you dont do it.. Then ignore.. A man cheats, they expect the lady to do certain things or another girl will snatch her husband. When as a name change make a man divorce his wife??? Men why do you this?? Why force women to change names?? The problem wasnt even the men commenting, it was women insulting the woman. The comment that irked my feelings was a lady, asking her if the man didnt pay on her head. So cause your bride price is paid you wont have your say??? Some ladies have been groomed to be slaves.. Some have been groomed to place men as gods.. Some have been groomed and brain washed that losing a husband is their fault.. Some have been brain washed to displease themselves to pls men... Fine!! Its their life.. But when such is displayed in the open, all I feel is disgust. My question is, Is it a must for a woman to drop her maidens name???
Posted on: Wed, 23 Jul 2014 07:30:17 +0000
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