Ive never been one to air my dirty laundry on here. I dont even like making negative posts at all, and if I do, I immediately regret it. Anyway, there have been some recent events in my marriage that I am willing to share with you, not to release the skeletons in my closet, but rather as a testament to the importance of the cornerstones of marriage. You see, without honesty, trust, and communication, any marriage will be on the doorstep of failure. And make no mistake about it - there is no exception to this rule, not in ANY marriage, including mine. There were some lines of communication broken in my marriage which resulted in a lack of honesty which, in turn, weakened the trust. In most marriages, this is where people cut and run, and I would be lying if I said that thought didnt cross my mind. I was angry and hurt and I needed time to process it all. Once the haze of anger cleared, I looked into the emotional bank account that my husband has been investing in for almost 25 years. His deposits to this account over these years have far exceeded this withdrawal. I was able to open my heart to forgiveness at this point, and then the most amazing thing happened. Once I was able to forgive, lines of communication were wide open, possibly more than theyve ever been. Painfully honest truths were told causing us to learn more about ourselves and each other, which immediately helped to begin building back the trust. My husband made some bad choices (none of which included infidelity), but those bad choices do not make him a bad person. Were all human, we all lose our way and make mistakes at some point in our lives. If anything, now is the time to stand by his side and support him more than ever, which is exactly what I intend to do. We have a long road ahead of us, but well go down that road together, hand in hand - this time, not forgetting our cornerstones. Moral of the story - No marriage is exempt from issues, no marriage is easy. You have to work hard and nurture it every single day, no matter how long youve been together, and when the going gets tough, you remember and recite your vows....through sickness and in health, til death do us part. We will rise above. We will ride out the storm. We will be stronger in the end. We are the Newlands!
Posted on: Sat, 03 Jan 2015 22:41:25 +0000