Learn from your jealousy. The ignoble, negative emotions have a role in our lives, one of teaching each of us how to be a better person for struggling and overcoming them. They have a place, just not one that controls you and excuses poor behavior. Some of the things jealousy might be teaching you include: You are frightened when a relationship is new and still has some way to go before it feels secure. This is a commonplace feeling in young relationships for many people, and both possessiveness as well as sense of vulnerability at getting close to someone, can drive feelings of jealousy.( ...and were so fond of seducing people; testing our power can become a very harming pass time ) Youre afraid someone else will take your job, salary, role, position, and so forth. In this case, its probable that youre afraid of financial insecurity (survival instinct) or you feel that youre an impostor in your role, the latter an all-too-commonly held false belief in many high-achieving people in the workforce. Remember that you wouldnt have been given the role or position unless other people felt you had earned it.( dont be your worst and closest enemy) Try living up to that trust in you rather than seeing demons hovering in every corner. You feel your lover has a roving eye. In romantic relationships, both men and women continue to check out other men and women. Its biologically driven and its natural.[1] However, in the majority of cases, it does not mean that the person wants to leave the relationship he or she is in with you. It is, for most people, about appreciating the human form and not about a roaming eye. This misunderstanding has long created unnecessary jealousy as long as relationships have existed; it can help to accept that its okay for a person in a committed relationship to look, provided theres no touch! You listen to people who say mean or exaggerated things and let this direct your emotions. Take a stand ! Be true to yourself and those you love ! All too common, many people are easily convinced by the village gossip because it sounds so compelling and seems like it must be right. The reality is that it rarely is right and its always far better to not listen to people who chatter away making things up as they go. Let these people go get jobs as celebrity gossip journalists while you get on with facing the facts instead. You dislike looking within yourself and working through difficult emotions. Its typical to externalize painful emotions, to try and make them someone elses problem than to do the hard work of facing them and dealing with them internally. Jealousy is painful but by facing it, you can repair much internal damage that ultimately makes your relationships stronger and more enduring.
Posted on: Sat, 25 Jan 2014 01:11:22 +0000
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