PSEUDO RELATIONSHIP O NO COMMITMENT STATUS: The parang kayo, pero hindi stage... Others call it MU or mutual understanding. Pseudo-relationships. Pseudo-boyfriends. Pseudo-girlfriends. Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite.It is a phase where the persons involve dare more than friends, but not quite lovers. Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala.One or both of you may have admitted your feelings,possible ding hindi. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi kayo mag jowa. Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo,pero hindi. This kind of relationship can happen at different stages for different reasons. It can happen after a break-up.You still love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason.And for reasons that you alone now, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan. It can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong nakikiramdam.Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa- kunwarian lang muna.Testing lang. (tama ba un?!) Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayokasi isa sa inyo may ka-relasyon na.Kaya habang hindi pa siyanakikipag-break doon sa boy/girl(sabi niya makikipag-break siya soonpero di naman niya ginagawa),wala muna kayong relasyonpara nga naman hindi siya nangangaliwakasi hindi naman kayo. This pseudo-relationship stage,for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng KALARO. Pero huwag ka lang mag-e expect na may patutunguhan kayo kase wala talagang kasiguraduhan. So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan? Ibat ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang.Puwedeng buti na iyan kesa wala or puwede na iyang pantawid-gutom.Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing,doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian. For those who are not in a serious relationship,they would think that pseudo- relationshipis better than no relationship at all.It would be fun, if all youre after is that kilig feeling. But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship,the emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up,merong malulugi..ung nainlove sa taong taken na.. Una, you cant ask him/her to commit.Since its not really a relationship,you cant demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo?You will always be uncertain about your role in his/her life. You cant expect him/herto be always there with you.And if you feel jealous of the other boys/ girls,you just have to keep it to yourself.Ano ka ba niya para magselos? Pangalawa, what ifyou fall deeply in love with him/ her?You cant be sure if he/she feels the same way.Baka nag-a-assume ka langna mahal ka rin niya. Even if you are dying to tell him/her you love him/her,you cant.Because youre not sureif he/she will like it.Baka mapahiya ka lang. This stage will always make you wonderwhere you are in the relationship.Or if there is a relationship at all. Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man/woman hasnt?What if you remain faithful to him/her,not entertaining other guys/gals,only to find out that he/she is seeing other girls/boys? Isa pang downside ng pseudo relationships it is fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold,then that would be the end of it.Unlike in a serious relationship,hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugarsa isang pseudorelationship.Wala kang pinanghahawakan. Kasi sa pseudo- relationship, there is no us. Meron lang you and me, hindi us Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi eh. Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo relationship, hindi mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out eventually that that someone is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody else. Ang hirap, ano? You agreed to this kind of set up and then youd end up hurting yourself in the process. Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh. Puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences. But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing. Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo. Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang parang kayo pero hindi stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo. Usually, hanggang doon lang siya� almost, but not quite.
Posted on: Thu, 13 Mar 2014 02:54:14 +0000