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*Positive Parenting Tip* This tip comes from the book Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Markham of AhaParenting. This tip can be found on pages 193-194. Empowering kids to make amends with the three Rs: Reflection, Repair, and Responsibility -Reflect. When you ask open-ended questions and help your child narrate what happened, her rational brain gains understanding. This gives her more control over her emotions and behavior in the future. You were so worried when Eliza took your doll that you hit her...She was hurt and cried...So Mommy put the doll away and you were even more scared and cried, too, right? But then everyone finished crying and you and Eliza had fun with teddy bears, right? Sometimes you worry when other children touch your special toys. But no one will take your doll home. That is your doll and it lives here with us. If you get worried, what could you do instead of hitting? -Repair. When the child damages a relationship, empower him to repair it. Can he get an ice pack for his sister? Draw her a picture? This should not feel like a punishment, but a way to repair a valued relationship that was inadvertently damaged. Young children usually prefer this to a coerced apology, which feels humiliating rather than empowering. You hurt your brothers feelings when you knocked over his tower. What could you do to make him feel better? You want to help him rebuild his tower? Great! Why dont you offer that to him and see what he says? Do you think he might also like a hug? - Responsibility. The beginning of responsibility is seeing that his choices have a big impact on the world, and that he can always make a choice: response - ability. Offer observations as he goes through his day to help him notice the choices hes making and the results: You sure made Michael happy when you gave him a turn with the truck. This works better than praise or punishment to empower him to make wise choices. *Dr. Lauras website ahaparenting is an invaluable resource, and her book Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids is a must-have for positive, peaceful parents. Have a wonderful day!
Posted on: Tue, 17 Jun 2014 14:35:43 +0000

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