Shared and written by Maggie Copus. Thank you for sharing with us, Maggie! If I ever get through this… If I ever get through this I will tuck a new grieving mom under my loving wing. If I ever get through this I will spoil her and love her until she can do it herself. If I ever get through this, I will sit with her and make a to-do list. If I ever get through this I will show her how to cross off things on her to-do list. If I ever get through this, I will help her make a grocery list. If I ever get through this I will go shopping for her, until she can come with me and keep helping her until she can do it on her own. If I ever get through this, I will show up in my maid uniform and clean her home, until she can come do it with me, and keep helping her until she can do it alone. If I ever get through this I will do her laundry, until she can jump in and help me, and keep helping her until she can do it on her own. If I ever get through this, I will help her ask for what she needs, and keep helping her until she can meet her own needs. If I ever get through this I will encourage her to be gentle with herself, and I will do this by being gentle with her, until she understands she will eventually love herself again. If I ever get through this I will bring my spa supplies and I will give her a facial, a full body massage, and I will let the love, compassion, empathy and understanding I have for her flow from fingers and go deep into her soul. If I ever get through this I will cook her meals, I will have lots of healthy choices, and lots of comfort foods to chose from. But I won’t stop there, I will set these meals in front of her knowing she may not be able to touch it now, but let her know it’s waiting for her when she’s ready. If I ever get through this I will encourage her to shower or take long baths, I won’t stop there I will run that bath, I’ll add aromas that beckon her in there, I’ll tempt her with bubbles, music, candle light and maybe a glass of wine. If I ever get through this I will make her bed the most inviting place to be, since sleep is almost unbearable. I will get her a dream catcher to keep the nightmares away from her resting. If I ever get through this, I will encourage her to cry, I will let her cry, I will hold her, I will let her know as long as I am here she is safe. She is safe to say, to think, to feel as intensely as she needs, I will let her know those tears she’s trying to hold back will not befriend her, the tears she sheds won’t kill her, I will keep soft Kleenex with in her reach at all times. If I ever get through this, I will help her, find and get the resources, the support she needs when she is ready to get help. If I ever get through this I will have music available that is safe and uplifting to listen to, that brings hope and faith back into her dark life again. If I ever get through this I will have a notebook and a journal for her to keep all of her stuff in one place, a place to write, a place to sort thoughts and emotions, the little things really count. If I ever get through this I will have a list of books, articles, poems and letters to bring her some relief from her suffering, because she will know she hasn’t started a new trend but is on the same path as many others. If I ever get through this, I will ask her what is helping. What would be of more help? What is impossible and how can I help make it possible? If I ever get through this I will help her get the financial support she’s lacking because she can’t work yet. If I ever get through this I will listen to her, validate all of her thoughts and feelings, I will tell her she’s not going crazy, I will tell her she is exactly where she is suppose to be. I will tell her to wait a moment because what she feels and thinks now will be forever changing. If I get through this…I know how to help someone who has lost a child. I know because it happened to me. If I ever get through this I have so much to give, so much to offer. by Maggie Copus
Posted on: Thu, 08 Aug 2013 23:00:00 +0000
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