The Rights of the Husband Rasheed Barbee A discussion on 9 rights of a husband over his wife. From the seminar, The Rights of the Spouses (September 2013), Toronto, Canada. Rights of a Husband upon His Wife: 1. She obeys him in everything that is good but not that which is forbidden Ibn Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: The Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, All of you are guardians and are responsible for your subjects. The ruler is a guardian of his subjects, the man is a guardian of his family, the woman is a guardian and is responsible for her husbands house and his offspring; and so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your subjects. Bukharee and Muslim Aaishah reported that a woman from the Ansar married her daughter who had lost her hair because of illness. She came to Allahs Apostle (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) and said: Her husband wants that false hair should be aaded to her head. Thereupon Allahs Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said: The woman who adds false hair has been cursed. This hadith has been narrated on the authority of Nafi with the same chain of transmitters but with a slight variation of wording. Muslim Abu Hurayrah (radiyallaahu anhu) reported that the Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, If I were Io command anyone to prostrate to anyone, I would have commanded woman to prostrate to her husband. Tirmidhee, Hasan Saheeh Amr bin Al-Harith Al-Mustaliq said: It used to be said that the people with the worst punishment [on the Day of Judgment] are two: A woman who disobeyed her husband, and a peoples Imam whom they dislike. Tirmidhee. Saheeh 2. She is thankful to him Ibn Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) said: The Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, O women folk! You should give charity and be diligent in seeking Allahs forgiveness because I have seen (i.e., on the Night of the Ascension to the highest heavens) that dwellers of the Hell are women. A woman amongst them said: Why is it that the majority of the dwellers of Hell are women? The Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) replied, You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. In spite of your lacking in wisdom and failing in religion, you are depriving the wisest of men of their intelligence. Upon this the woman asked: What is the deficiency in our wisdom and in our religion? He (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) replied, Your lack of wisdom can be well judged from the fact that the evidence of two women is equal to that one man. You do not offer Salat (prayer) for some days and you do not fast (the whole of) Ramadan sometimes, it is a deficiency in religion. [Muslim]. 3. That she does not anger him nor become angry with him Narrated Abu Hurayrah: The Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, If a woman spends the night deserting her husbands bed (does not sleep with him), then the angels send their curses on her till she comes back (to her husband). Bukhaaree Abu Hurayrah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, When a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond and he (the husband) spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning. Bukhaaree and Muslim In another narration: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, When a woman spends the night away from the bed of her husband, the angels curse her until morning. Bukhaaree and Muslim In another narration: Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, By Him in Whose Hand is my life, when a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond, the One Who is above the heaven becomes displeased with her until he (her husband) becomes pleased with her. Bukhaaree and Muslim Abu Umamah narrated that: Allahs Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said: There are three whose Salat would not rise up beyond their ears: The runaway slave until he returns, a woman who spends a night while her husband is angry with her, and a peoples Imam whom they dislike. Tirmidhee, Hasan 4. She is loving and merciful with him And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect. [ar-Room, 30:21] Umm Kulthum bint Uqbah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported: Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, The person who (lies) in order to conciliate between people is not a liar, when he conveys good or says (something) good.The narration in Muslim added: She said, I never heard him (she meant the Prophet ()) giving permission of lying in anything except in three (things): war, conciliating between people and the conversation of man with his wife and the conversation of a woman with her husband. Bukhaaree and Muslim Muadh ibn Jabal (radiyallaahu anhu) reported that the Prophet said, When a wife hurts her husband in this world, his wife in Paradise, from among the hural-ayn says Do not hurt him. May Allah destroy you! He is only an alien with you and will soon separate from you to come to us. Tirmidhee, Ibn Majah, Ahmad, Saheeh Narrated Abu Hurayrah: It was narrated that Abu Hurairah said: It was said to the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam): Which woman is best? He said: The one who makes him happy when he looks at her, obeys him when he commands her, and she does not go against his wishes with regard to herself nor her wealth. An-Nasaaee, Hasan 5. She preserves his honour and herself Fadala ibn Ubayd reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, Do not ask about three: a man who parts company with the community, rebels the ruler and dies while he is a still a rebel. Do not ask about him. Or a slave or slavegirl who runs away from his master. Or a woman whose husband is absent and who has sufficient provision and then displays her adornments to strangers and mixes freely. Do not ask about three: a man who contends with Allah regarding His cloak. His cloak is pride and His wrapper is His might. Also a man who doubts the command of Allah. and someone who despairs of Allahs mercy. Al-Adabul-Mufrad, Saheeh Abu Malih Huzali reported that some women of Hims or of Syria visited Aaishah (radiyallahu anhu). She said, You are the women who go to the public baths. I have heard Allahs Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) say that there is no women who removes her garments in a house other than her husbands but she tears the curtain between her and her Lord. Tirmidhee, Abu Daawood, Ahmad, Saheeh 6. Keeps his secrets 7. Preserve the home of her husband Hammam bin Munabbih said: These are some of the a hadeeth of Muhammad. the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam), transmitted to us on the authority of Abu Huraira. So he narrated one hadith out of them (as this): The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said: No woman should observe fast when her spouse is present (in the house) but with his permission. And she should not admit any (mahram) in his house, while he (her husband) is present, but with his permission. And whatever she spends from his earnings without his sanction, for him is half the reward. Muslim Abu Hurayrah (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, It is not lawful for a woman to observe an optional Saum (fast) without the permission of her husband when he is at home. Nor should she allow anyone to enter his house without his permission. Bukhaaree and Muslim 8. Spend anything from his wealth except with his permission Abu Umamah Bahiliy said that he heard Allahs Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) say during a sermon in the year of the farewell Pilgrimage. A woman must not spend anything from her husbands home without his permission. He was asked, O Messenger of Allah! And not even food? He said, that is the best of our properties. Tirmidhee,Abu Daawood, Ibn Maajah, Hasan Narrated Aa;ishah (radiyallaahu anhaa): Allahs Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, When a woman gives in charity from her husbands meals without wasting the property of her husband, she will get a reward for it, and her husband too will get a reward for what he earned and the storekeeper will have the reward likewise. Bukhaaree Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-As: The Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said: It is not permissible for a woman to present a gift (from her husbands property) except with the permission of her husband. Abu Daawood, Hasan Saeeih 9. Doesnt fast except with his permission Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, A woman should not fast (optional fasts) except with her husbands permission if he is at home (staying with her)
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