The most important factor in personal growth is self-compassion. There can be no meaningful change without a gentle, loving attitude toward yourself. It can be too easy to let the inner critic beat you up when youre facing the truth about some of the bad choices youve been making. These include counter-productive behaviors & dysfunctional attitudes, beliefs & expectations. The problem is that when you start to attack yourself, you shut down emotionally & no real change is possible. The concept of ruthless compassion is key here: you ruthlessly pursue the truth about yourself & your life so that youre fully aware of what is & isnt working for you. Then, you bring compassion to bear, understanding that the dysfunctional attitudes & behaviors come from the unmet needs & unhealed wounds that developed as a result of your childhood. Rather than trying to whip yourself into shape, you need to be kind toward yourself. This allows you to begin healing the wounds & meeting the needs at the root of your counter-productive choices. When youre working on self-love & self-healing as opposed to self-criticism & self-blame, thats when you become empowered to make meaningful changes in yourself & in your life.
Posted on: Wed, 19 Mar 2014 17:19:56 +0000
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