This got my hackles up this morning: As divorce rates indicate, human beings haven’t been able to fully adapt to our skyrocketing life expectancy. Our biology and psychology aren’t set up to be with one person for four, five, or six decades. Wrong. I usually dont post on what celebrities do, but a few articles about Gwenyth Paltrow have caught my eye recently, one being on Conscious Uncoupling. This quote, explaining why people cant stay married, just makes me want to barf. IMO -- and this being the position of someone who learned the hard way through a failed first marriage -- love is a choice, you choose to stay in love with someone, even when it is hard, even when it is boring because youve made the commitment to that person. But you have to choose wisely. You cant give your lifelong pledge of love to any yahoo that gives you a compliment. Heres another gem of a quote: Conscious uncoupling brings wholeness to the spirits ... with spiritual trace minerals like self-love, self-acceptance, and self-forgiveness. Self, self, self. Me, me, me. The core problem with marriages failing today? Thinking of oneself more than you consider your partner. It isnt that we arent built for long-term, decade-long commitments to one person, it is that we stop focusing on our partner and their happiness and focus more on our own. When you do that, how can a marriage possibly thrive? Granted, it may be more difficult to do now that life expectancies are so much longer, but it is worth trying. Tirade over. Thanks for listening.
Posted on: Sat, 29 Mar 2014 15:00:08 +0000
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