"Understand" By: Joy Lynn Locklear I am a firm believer that we all have that one special gift that was placed within us that we are to use to serve others. I’m not talking about miracles in the heavenly realm, although, I have witnessed a few of those as well. Most specifically, I’m referring to those small gifts that we are to use daily when others are in need of them. It could be the gift of advice, or the gift of making certain that elders have a ride to the grocery store or utility office to make a payment, or the gift of being able to help a child who is struggling in school, or using a vehicle to help a single mother move her meager belongings into her very first home, or the gift of wisdom that is used to help others make a big or small decision, or simply being the shoulder to lean on when things…….hurt. My gift is simply understanding………..not always supporting or agreeing with, mind you.……..but….understanding. I suppose this isn’t the grandest or most eloquent of gifts, but….it is mine and one that I am compelled to use every single day in some way. Understanding, you ask. What is that I understand and why is it such a wonderful gift? I understand that things don’t always have to be my way. It is settled in my heart and mind that what worked yesterday for one will not necessarily be the best answer for another today. I understand that regardless of a test that a child will be forced to take, that he or she will not be receptive to what I have to say if they have come to school hungry. I absolutely know and support the idea that second chances…..and third…..chances go farther than anger and rigid lines. I understand that the new faculty member at school may become overwhelmed and because of that, I feel the need to stop in everyday to see if I can be of any assistance. I understand that when someone’s feelings have been hurt that “I understand…..and it’s going to be ok”, generally brings a hint of a smile and a sigh of relief. I understand that making someone smile is the best medicine of all. I understand that people aren’t going to want, or even need your advice, when the only thing they are truly looking for is someone who is willing to listen and share with. I do understand that people are different and dealings with all of them are varied. I completely understand that taboo statements like “If I were you, I would…” serve no purpose if I haven’t experienced what someone is talking to me about….and that these kinds of cookie cutter responses have proven to be more harmful than any……ANY……..good. I guess what I’m trying to say is that I understand that people simply need to be understood….on their own terms and in their own way. You don’t have to like it or condone it….you simply have to understand it without judging it!!…..and that is the first step in nurturing a relationship that will open the doors for honest conversation that will be well received!.......... Life, guys………..it really is ALL……..relative, isn’t it? We all have this special gift…..and I know someone is depending on you to share yours with them………..I just KNOW it! "Joy to all......"
Posted on: Fri, 20 Sep 2013 22:17:29 +0000
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